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3rd Oct 2024

Navigating Life's Challenges: Insights from Sia Stone on Health and Happiness

Success is a progressive realization of a worthy idea, and in this enlightening podcast episode, Sia Stone shares her journey from a passionate fitness instructor to the owner of Misfit Bedford View. She emphasizes the importance of aligning your pursuits with your highest values to live a fulfilled and inspired life. The conversation delves into various topics, including the significance of healthy lifestyles, the challenges of entrepreneurship, and the impact of mindset on achieving personal goals. Sia also discusses the transformative power of yoga, not just as a physical practice but as a means of achieving balance and awareness in life. With anecdotes and insights, this episode encourages listeners to embrace their unique paths to success while fostering a supportive community.

In this motivating episode of The NJ Podcast, we sit down with Siya Stone, the Head Coach and Manager at MissFit Bedfordview, yoga instructor at Virgin Active, and an independent Herbalife distributor. Siya shares her inspiring journey of transforming lives through fitness and helping people achieve a healthy, active lifestyle.

With her passion for wellness, Siya has grown her fitness classes from just 6 people to 42, helping each participant fall in love with their body. Through her guidance, her clients have become stronger, more flexible, and more self-aware, with many seeing noticeable results in just 10 days of consistent effort. In this episode, Siya discusses her approach to fitness, the importance of self-love, and how she teaches others to share their healthy lifestyle with the world.

Whether you're looking to jumpstart your fitness journey or inspire others to live healthier lives, Siya’s story and practical advice will motivate you to take action today.

Get inspired to live a healthier, more active lifestyle! Connect with Siya Stone for personalized fitness coaching and join her growing community of empowered individuals. Don’t forget to subscribe to The NJ Podcast on YouTube and your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode with friends who are on their fitness journey.

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Takeaways:

  • Success is a progressive realization of a worthy ideal aligned with your highest values.
  • Listening to your own inner voice is crucial for personal growth and fulfillment.
  • Surrounding yourself with positive influences and people can significantly impact your journey.
  • Achieving success requires both discipline in your training and a healthy mindset.
  • Yoga not only improves physical fitness but also enhances self-awareness and mental clarity.
  • Finding joy in the process and enjoying your own company is essential for well-being.



The NJ Podcast presents a compelling discussion with Sia Stone, a dynamic fitness coach and owner of Misfit Bedford View, who shares her inspiring journey toward success. Sia embodies the podcast’s theme that success is a progressive realization of a worthy idea, as she recounts her experiences in health and wellness. From her early passion for sports to becoming a certified yoga instructor and Herbalife distributor, Sia illustrates how aligning her lifestyle with her values has empowered her to help others achieve their fitness goals. Her transition from small group classes to leading a thriving community showcases the importance of dedication, effort, and the transformative power of wellness.


As the conversation unfolds, Sia emphasizes the importance of mindset in the pursuit of health and happiness. She discusses how practicing gratitude and self-love can significantly shift one’s perspective, allowing individuals to overcome obstacles and embrace their true potential. The dialogue also touches on the vital role of community support in the wellness journey, highlighting how shared experiences can foster growth and motivation. Sia’s insights resonate with listeners, encouraging them to reflect on their own journeys and the significance of aligning actions with personal aspirations. This rich discussion serves as a reminder that success is not merely a destination but a continuous journey of self-discovery, empowerment, and connection to oneself and others.

Companies mentioned in this episode:

  • Herbalife
  • Virgin Active
  • Misfit Bedford View
Transcript
Host:

Hey, everyone, welcome back to another episode on the NJ podcast.

Host:

And remember that the theme of the show is that success is a progressive realization of a worthy idea.

Host:

That means you're going after what you've always wanted to go after because it's aligned with your highest values.

Host:

And that is the only way for you to live a truly fulfilled, inspired life.

Host:

And on the show, we've got, we speak to people from all walks of life, people who are famous and some people who act like they're not famous, people who are fitness freaks.

Host:

And we speak to politicians, teachers, actors, or people from all walks of life, because everybody has got a story to share and insights that we can all learn from.

Host:

And everyone is on their own success journey.

Host:

And you will find us on all of the podcast platforms, you'll find us on the YouTube.

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And today, finally.

Host:

Oh, it's been a while.

Host:

This has been a long time overdue.

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I have got the one, the only, and the most famous person in the world whose name is that?

Host:

Elon Musk.

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See a stone.

Host:

And she is.

Host:

She's absolutely awesome.

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It's about time.

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It's a long time coming that this has been coming.

Host:

So she is Sia Stone.

Host:

If you know, you know, you know, you know.

Host:

And she is the head coach and owner.

Host:

Listen, Layla, owner.

Host:

We only speak to owners on this show.

Host:

Pela, owner at Misfit Bedford View.

Host:

She's a yoga instructor at Virgin active and an independent herbalife distributor.

Host:

And her goal is to help more people live a healthy, active lifestyle and teach them how to share their healthy lifestyle with others.

Host:

She's built classes that started off with six people to 42.

Host:

Is it still 42?

Host:

Is it more than that now?

Sia Stone:

Yeah, it's still ranging there.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

Six to 42 people where each person has fallen in love with their bodies.

Host:

Oh, yes.

Host:

Yes.

Host:

I need to join so I can form in love with my poor.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

When they feel stronger, more flexible and more aware of themselves in their body.

Host:

And her ladies get results within ten days of consistent efforts and training towards their body goals.

Host:

Thank you very much for all the time.

Sia Stone:

Thank you.

Sia Stone:

Thank you for having me.

Host:

Yeah, it's good to have you on.

Host:

So, Sia, outside of you being the girl boss, the owner of your own fitness empire, budding fitness empire.

Host:

Just tell us more about yourself.

Host:

Where is it you come from, where you studied?

Host:

And just what makes you so passionate about the topic of health and fitness?

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

Okay, so I am Sia Stone from Bedfordview.

Sia Stone:

I went to school in Bedfordview, went to Rhodes University for varsity ru.

Host:

That's it.

Sia Stone:

Look, at school, I was always really into sports, was where I thrived the most, so took that on.

Sia Stone:

And then in varsity, did drama, organizational psychology.

Sia Stone:

I did human kinetics and ergonomics.

Host:

You're the smart people.

Host:

Like, I never could understand what you guys are doing.

Host:

What do you guys do?

Sia Stone:

Yeah, we're understanding the body.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

All right.

Host:

Sure, sure.

Sia Stone:

So with the drama and the human kinetics and ergonomics, I'm just going to refer to it as hke.

Host:

Hke.

Host:

Yeah, yeah.

Sia Stone:

I was able to just bring my love for moving my body, the sports, into one.

Sia Stone:

I've always really been into entertaining.

Sia Stone:

I've entertained my friends just sitting and, you know, making jokes, laughing around.

Host:

Yeah, yeah.

Sia Stone:

So, yeah, after that, came back to Joburg, did some work at a production house.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

Then I felt pregnant.

Host:

Oh, okay.

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Host:

All right.

Sia Stone:

So I am a mom to a seven year old boy.

Host:

Oh, you're a mom.

Host:

She's a mom to a seven year old boy.

Host:

Mom to a seven year old.

Host:

Boyden.

Host:

M I l f.

Host:

You know.

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Sia Stone:

Okay, I'll take it.

Sia Stone:

I still feel fresh anyway.

Host:

I know, I know.

Host:

Someone's thinking that right now.

Host:

I can tell you that someone's forgetting right now.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

So, yeah, then I stayed home, took care of him, and then ended up getting another job at this place called active education.

Sia Stone:

So we're doing edutainment.

Sia Stone:

Then again with my drama and my movement.

Sia Stone:

Went there.

Sia Stone:

Then I decided, no, actually, I need to do something with my life.

Sia Stone:

It's something that I really enjoy.

Sia Stone:

And I remember the one time I got invited to this free yoga class.

Sia Stone:

It was an african kemetic yoga class, and I fell in love.

Sia Stone:

African kinetic, ancient egyptian yoga.

Host:

Ancient egyptian yoga.

Sia Stone:

Okay, so did that class.

Sia Stone:

Fell in love.

Sia Stone:

I knew that I needed to share that with everyone.

Sia Stone:

How?

Sia Stone:

I had no idea, but the universe heard me.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

Got an opportunity from the production house that I was working with.

Sia Stone:

They had this deal that they were doing with liberty life, and they needed an extra and a talent, and they picked me.

Sia Stone:

So had to go through all the auditions and all of that.

Sia Stone:

Got it.

Sia Stone:

Got a nice pay that could pay my yoga training.

Host:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

So I just paid for that.

Sia Stone:

Went into that.

Sia Stone:

I didn't know how I was going to move from there, but I just.

Sia Stone:

I did it because I knew that this was my thing.

Sia Stone:

Ended up getting certified.

Sia Stone:

I got, like.

Sia Stone:

I don't want to say let go, but I did go and check planet fitness, virgin active to see if they were keen to take me on.

Sia Stone:

And no, unfortunately not.

Sia Stone:

This was.

Sia Stone:

I want to say,:

Host:

2019.

Host:

Five years ago?

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

All right.

Sia Stone:

I approached this private studio, the nest space, and they were keen to take me on.

Sia Stone:

So I started there.

Sia Stone:

I did online training and.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, for years, because, I mean, you know, Covid did its thing.

Host:

Covid was amazing.

Host:

Covid was amazing.

Host:

The best thing ever.

Host:

All right.

Sia Stone:

How not.

Host:

Oh, my goodness.

Host:

Because people didn't lose their jobs and their houses and their cars and their money and their businesses.

Sia Stone:

Mental health was all in general.

Host:

Mental health was at an all time high.

Sia Stone:

Money was abundant.

Host:

Geez.

Host:

Like, it was absolutely great.

Host:

It was amazing.

Host:

No, no, it was a dumpster fire.

Host:

I want a refund.

Host:

I want my refund.

Host:

That's every single year now.

Host:

I check.

Host:

I want to check the terms and conditions of the next year before I enter.

Sia Stone:

Wow.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

But anyways, through the online training, then joined joined herbalife.

Host:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

That was when I was like, okay, cool.

Sia Stone:

I've got my certificate.

Sia Stone:

I can do online training.

Sia Stone:

I can jump on these products.

Host:

Yeah, yeah.

Sia Stone:

Use them, sell them, help others do the things and.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

Been uphill from then.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, from then being able to work at Virgin active.

Sia Stone:

I had so many classes in the week.

Sia Stone:

I was at so many private studios.

Sia Stone:

I then got approached by the head coach at misfit, Bedford View, to be a butterfly coach.

Host:

And what's a butterfly coach?

Sia Stone:

It's like a fill in, like a part time coach.

Host:

My only reference to butterflies is swimming.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

And that was my main stroke.

Sia Stone:

I used to be a swimmer.

Host:

Oh, you used to be a swimmer as well?

Host:

You know, you're breaking stereotypes because.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, yeah, come on.

Sia Stone:

I know, but I mean, I grew up in Bedford View.

Host:

Oh, yeah, I grew up.

Sia Stone:

I was in the view.

Host:

Yeah, you were in the view.

Host:

People call it deaf review.

Host:

Bedford View.

Host:

Deaf review.

Host:

Sometimes I know why.

Sia Stone:

No, I don't want to say anything about that, but I know why.

Sia Stone:

It's in the name.

Sia Stone:

Dead.

Host:

What happened?

Host:

What happened, man?

Host:

What happened?

Host:

Because I still.

Host:

I serve some.

Host:

Some of my offices over there, and then when I'm there, I'm like, why do you call this place dead?

Host:

For the view.

Sia Stone:

Now there's too many shootings.

Sia Stone:

People are dying.

Host:

Oh, all the shootings.

Host:

Oh, yeah, I heard about a few of those, but I just thought it was an anomaly.

Sia Stone:

I thought, it's an actual thing.

Host:

It's an actual thing.

Sia Stone:

It's an actual thing.

Sia Stone:

I remember at the back of our house, I don't know what was going on at Bedford center, but I think there was a shooting there and right at the back.

Sia Stone:

So we stay in a gated community, and we are, like, at that.

Host:

Oh, look at that.

Host:

They stayed in gated community.

Host:

Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey.

Host:

You didn't choose this life.

Host:

This life chose you.

Sia Stone:

Hey, hey.

Host:

What must I do?

Host:

Hey.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

So there was a shooting literally happening right at the back.

Sia Stone:

I could see.

Sia Stone:

If I stood by my son's room, I could see what was going on.

Host:

You could see the shootout happening.

Sia Stone:

No, no.

Sia Stone:

But I was hiding.

Sia Stone:

Why would I be like, oh, let me just see where.

Host:

No, just go back a little bit.

Host:

You missed the person on the left.

Sia Stone:

No, like, dancing.

Host:

Mandy.

Host:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, I'm not going inside, but, yeah, it's.

Sia Stone:

It's deadfit view for a reason.

Host:

Oh, okay.

Host:

I thought it was just quiet.

Sia Stone:

That's why you're okay.

Host:

I.

Host:

That's.

Host:

I didn't know.

Host:

I don't know.

Host:

I don't know.

Sia Stone:

It could be also because it's quiet.

Host:

But now I've got a real reason why they call it dead for you now.

Sia Stone:

That's.

Sia Stone:

That's my reason.

Host:

That's your reason?

Host:

I said I have another reason why.

Host:

Yeah, yeah.

Host:

Not the reason.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

No, no.

Sia Stone:

There are multiple reasons, clearly.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

But.

Sia Stone:

All right.

Sia Stone:

I love it.

Sia Stone:

It is.

Sia Stone:

It is quite quiet when it's quiet.

Sia Stone:

It's quiet.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

It's very enjoyable.

Sia Stone:

But, man, it's hectic.

Host:

And it's hectic.

Host:

It's proper hectic.

Sia Stone:

It's hectic.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

Okay, sure.

Host:

I'm gonna stop going to the movies there.

Host:

There's east gate, and there's Bedford Center.

Host:

I like going to the movies there, but now I'm not so sure anymore.

Sia Stone:

It's okay.

Sia Stone:

Just.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

Nowhere safe.

Sia Stone:

I'll say that.

Host:

Nowhere is safe.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

Nowhere.

Sia Stone:

Someone can just pop off and be like, eyo.

Host:

Yeah, that is very true.

Sia Stone:

Like, anywhere.

Host:

That is very true.

Host:

That is very true.

Host:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

Right.

Host:

So, uh, misfit Bedford view.

Sia Stone:

Misfit Bedford view.

Sia Stone:

I was there, um, did my part time thing there.

Sia Stone:

She was.

Sia Stone:

I think she was getting married.

Host:

Is that the owner who said, you need to become a butterfly?

Sia Stone:

The head coach.

Host:

The head coach.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

Sure.

Sia Stone:

She approached me, and she asked.

Sia Stone:

She came to one of my classes, and she was blown away.

Sia Stone:

And she was like, you know what?

Sia Stone:

Actually come through.

Host:

African kemetic, not kinetic.

Host:

Yo.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

African.

Host:

African kinetic.

Host:

Yes.

Host:

How's that?

Sia Stone:

Yes, yes, yes.

Sia Stone:

That's my son's name, actually.

Host:

Amun.

Host:

Ra.

Sia Stone:

Amun, not Ra.

Sia Stone:

We've changed Ra to Langa because Ra and Langa have, like, an energetic.

Sia Stone:

They share the same energetic.

Host:

I thought they meant the same thing, though.

Sia Stone:

Ra is like the rays of the sun.

Host:

Oh, I thought it was the sun.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

And the sun.

Sia Stone:

The rays of the many things.

Sia Stone:

It's like seeing what you see, what you don't see.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, there's a lot of things, but, yeah.

Sia Stone:

So we've changed it to Amun langa.

Host:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

Instead of.

Sia Stone:

But yeah.

Sia Stone:

Ended up there, and then I think she.

Sia Stone:

Life was laughing with her.

Host:

Oh, okay.

Sia Stone:

And they obviously needed someone to fill in her space, so then they asked me to fill in the space, and then I ended up becoming the head coach at the misfit, Bedford View.

Sia Stone:

I remember I was standing on the rooftop, and I was just like, whoa.

Sia Stone:

Like, I would love to have one misfit, like, just for myself and have my own studio.

Sia Stone:

It's such a beautiful space.

Sia Stone:

And my boss, the owner at the time, asked me what I wanted to do for the next five years, and I mentioned it to her, and she was like, okay, cool.

Host:

I want to own Bedford View.

Sia Stone:

No, a misfit.

Sia Stone:

Because she has Bedford view.

Sia Stone:

Right.

Sia Stone:

So I was like, I mean, I don't know where, but it would be.

Host:

I want your job.

Host:

I want your job.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

She approached me a few months after that, and she offered the space to me, and I was like, okay, okay.

Sia Stone:

She's like, would you be keen to buy?

Sia Stone:

And I was like, yeah.

Sia Stone:

Not knowing what this means, how this.

Sia Stone:

And I was also mind blown because, like, how is this happening?

Sia Stone:

And I'm.

Sia Stone:

I'm just, like, feeling and thinking of having the space.

Host:

Yeah, yeah.

Sia Stone:

Not.

Sia Stone:

I wasn't doing the research or anything like that, so it was pretty cool when.

Sia Stone:

When she approached me.

Sia Stone:

So, yeah.

Sia Stone:

Signed everything, and by the 1 September, it was mine.

Host:

By the 1 September was yours?

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

How did you finance it?

Host:

That's just me being.

Sia Stone:

Well, loans.

Host:

Oh, okay.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

I thought they were going to give it to you for free.

Sia Stone:

No, no, no.

Sia Stone:

She's very nice, though.

Sia Stone:

She like the payment plan and all of that.

Sia Stone:

She's been very, very kind with that.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

And obviously, this was after Covid, right?

Sia Stone:

This has happened.

Sia Stone:

Like, now.

Sia Stone:

Now.

Host:

Like, now now.

Host:

I like now.

Sia Stone:

Like, now.

Sia Stone:

The 1 September.

Host:

I thought.

Host:

Yeah, yeah.

Host:

Well done, well done, well done, well done.

Host:

Geez, that's good.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

Wow.

Host:

I'm gonna go out and have some juice after this to celebrate.

Host:

Sparkling juice?

Host:

Just juice?

Sia Stone:

No appetizer?

Host:

No, no, no.

Host:

Just juice.

Host:

No.

Host:

No sparklers?

Host:

No, no, no, no.

Host:

You're not gonna get me canceled.

Host:

No, absolutely.

Host:

I'm gonna have some juice to go celebrate.

Host:

I'm gonna have, you know, the health shots.

Host:

The health shots.

Host:

You know, the ginger and the turmeric.

Host:

I'm gonna have those whole shots to celebrate.

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Host:

You know what I mean?

Host:

But anyway, well done.

Host:

That's amazing.

Host:

That is amazing.

Host:

I love seeing people win.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

Amazing.

Host:

I love it.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

No, it's.

Sia Stone:

It's definitely been a journey.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

I appreciate it.

Host:

So how does it make you feel?

Host:

Like.

Sia Stone:

Look, I will say that my energy and my vibe towards, like, myself and the space has changed.

Host:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

Completely.

Sia Stone:

I wake up different.

Sia Stone:

I step into the space different.

Sia Stone:

I walk different.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

Do you walk around like you own the place?

Sia Stone:

Because you do.

Sia Stone:

I need to.

Host:

Ah, yes.

Sia Stone:

That's my spot.

Host:

That's my house.

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Sia Stone:

You know, it is my sandpaper.

Host:

And if you don't like it, you can get out.

Sia Stone:

There.

Sia Stone:

It is.

Sia Stone:

But, yeah, I definitely do feel different.

Sia Stone:

Sometimes.

Sia Stone:

It can get overwhelming, because for the longest time, I was only doing yoga with people, selling products to people.

Host:

Yeah, yeah.

Sia Stone:

Helping with transformations and, like, just physically moving my body now it's admin.

Sia Stone:

Now it's making sure that rent is paid.

Sia Stone:

Is there still toilet paper?

Host:

Like, is that an actual concern?

Sia Stone:

It's an actual concern for other people, not just you.

Sia Stone:

No, no, no.

Sia Stone:

Like, is this space still moving the way it needs to?

Sia Stone:

Like, how can I improve?

Sia Stone:

How do I just better myself?

Sia Stone:

Better?

Sia Stone:

The space, it's different now.

Sia Stone:

Completely different.

Host:

There are no games are being played.

Sia Stone:

No, no, no.

Sia Stone:

And it's nice because everything then comes back to me.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

So I really need to put my best foot forward.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

100%, all the time now.

Host:

You just can't oversleep.

Sia Stone:

No.

Sia Stone:

What's that?

Host:

You see?

Host:

You see?

Sia Stone:

That even exists?

Host:

This is a message to all the employees out there who've never owned a business a day in their life.

Sia Stone:

No.

Host:

They come to work late and then they want bonuses and promotions.

Host:

Have done nothing.

Host:

Own something and then miss a payment and see what happens.

Sia Stone:

It's insane.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, it is insane.

Sia Stone:

But very grateful, because now I'm definitely out of my comfort zone.

Sia Stone:

I had no idea what was the next step after just doing what I was doing, being an instructor.

Sia Stone:

But now here I am.

Sia Stone:

This is the next step.

Host:

That's amazing.

Host:

That is amazing.

Host:

You still write all yours for that rhyme to give you a gift when you double this one.

Host:

This is monumental.

Host:

Monumental, right.

Host:

So explain the tenets of yoga to me, please, because I understand yoga to be just stretching.

Host:

That's my basic understanding of it.

Host:

And then others say that there's spiritual implications to it.

Host:

Some conservatives saying, like, oh, you're gonna be possessed.

Host:

Others are saying that it's aligning with.

Host:

Aligning with your energies.

Host:

Please explain to me, as a person who's a noob, a novice, in understanding what yoga is.

Sia Stone:

So, yoga is the Sanskrit name of union of mind, body, spirit, because we are mind, body, and spirit of the asanas are the postures.

Sia Stone:

We call them asanas.

Sia Stone:

And yes, there is a lot of stretching in yoga.

Sia Stone:

Yoga can be very strength based.

Sia Stone:

So the yoga that I have been teaching recently at virgin active has been strength based.

Sia Stone:

African kinetic yoga has a bit of strength to it, but more alignment and, liKe, endurance.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

So it is the alignment of the energy centers.

Sia Stone:

There are seven main energy centers that the SANSkrit yogis, the HATHA yogis, the vinyasa yogis focus on.

Sia Stone:

But we actually have about.

Sia Stone:

And I might be butchering this, but 108 energy centers in our bodies.

Host:

Did you say 108?

Sia Stone:

108 energy centers.

Sia Stone:

But the main ones that we focus on is the root chakra, the sacral chakra, your solar plexus.

Host:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

The heart chakra, throat chakra, your third eye, and the crown.

Host:

So, solar plexus is your stomach.

Host:

Right.

Sia Stone:

Solar plexus right here by your diaphragm, like, just a few fingers away from the diaphragm.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

All right.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

So when reason I know that is because I used to watch the wwe a lot.

Host:

Oh, he got punched in the solar.

Host:

Solar pexels.

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Host:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

Right, right there.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

It is exactly where it is.

Host:

What happens if someone punches you there?

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

Like, think about it.

Host:

I'm asking, do you die?

Host:

Whatever.

Sia Stone:

No, no, no.

Sia Stone:

Not die.

Sia Stone:

But on an energetic level, there is an imbalance that happens 100%.

Sia Stone:

The aim is always to try keep your energy centers balanced so that you are really aligned in yourself, not for anyone else but yourself.

Sia Stone:

There is a spiritual aspect to Yoga because of the energy centers.

Host:

Yeah, yeah.

Sia Stone:

Right.

Sia Stone:

So I kept on reading this one thing.

Sia Stone:

It's literally left my mind.

Sia Stone:

But the energy centers is literally, like, who we are.

Host:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

Right.

Sia Stone:

Without them, we don't exist.

Sia Stone:

So with each energy center, they have, like, a different thing that they run.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

So, for your root chakra, it's your legs, your feet.

Sia Stone:

You're grounding, you're feeling secure, you're feeling safe.

Sia Stone:

It's inertia.

Sia Stone:

Right.

Sia Stone:

And then your sacral chakra is the sex organs, your creativity, your.

Sia Stone:

I'm being.

Sia Stone:

Almost not.

Sia Stone:

I'm being.

Sia Stone:

But your feeling.

Sia Stone:

Right.

Sia Stone:

And then you've got.

Sia Stone:

Your Solar plexus is your willpower, your discipline, your go getter energy.

Sia Stone:

The heart chakra is very much about love.

Sia Stone:

Loving yourself, loving others, and just taking care of self.

Sia Stone:

It's the bridge between the lower energy centers and the higher energy centers.

Sia Stone:

Then you've got your throat chakra that is in charge of hearing, listening, communication.

Sia Stone:

But, like, honest communication.

Sia Stone:

I know with me, if I'm not speaking honestly to myself or listening properly to what anyone else is saying to me, and I know that I need to hear it.

Sia Stone:

I feel like a.

Sia Stone:

It's almost as if lump in your throat.

Sia Stone:

Not even a lump.

Sia Stone:

It feels like someone on the inside or something on the inside.

Host:

Is striking you.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

Is reaching me like this.

Host:

So is that how I can spot a liar?

Host:

Like.

Sia Stone:

No, you can spot yourself lying to yourself.

Host:

Oh, not spot someone else lying to me.

Sia Stone:

No, no.

Host:

That's what I want to know, man.

Sia Stone:

You can tell someone if they're lying because you can even hear it, right?

Sia Stone:

Lies you can hear.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

If you're just gonna say this, this, and I'm lying to you, like, I'm the greatest basketball player in the world.

Sia Stone:

I've been playing for the NBA.

Sia Stone:

I'm an Olympic swimmer.

Sia Stone:

I can already feel myself, like, lying.

Sia Stone:

I can feel it.

Host:

Like, my body's just like, you're a liar.

Host:

You're a liar.

Sia Stone:

But you can also see, like, the way I was, like, acting, I guess the performance you can.

Sia Stone:

We are in tune.

Host:

But some people are very good liars, though.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

It's the micro movements that you need to watch.

Sia Stone:

The micro movements, because you might even see that someone starts to do the.

Host:

Shoes moving or like a tiny or someone is busy.

Sia Stone:

Like, you know, there's always things that you can see.

Sia Stone:

The third.

Sia Stone:

The third eye, this one.

Sia Stone:

It's literally what you see.

Sia Stone:

But, like, your creativity, your visualizations, what you say, and see yourself in the future, in the past, in the present.

Sia Stone:

Oh, is it right?

Sia Stone:

And then the crown chakra is you being my being.

Host:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

You are just your being.

Sia Stone:

You're here.

Host:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

Your presence.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

All right, cool.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

Third eye, how does that work?

Host:

Like, what's the importance?

Host:

I know you're talking about.

Host:

It's how you see yourself past, present and future.

Host:

You being in tune.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

And I know some people talk about opening your third eye.

Host:

Is that an important thing?

Sia Stone:

It's something that we can all do.

Sia Stone:

It would be great if we can all do it.

Sia Stone:

Look, not everyone thinks that it is important.

Sia Stone:

So for me, yes, it's nice to have.

Sia Stone:

Because then, like, you're in, your intuition is different.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

You know what I mean?

Sia Stone:

Like, the lying thing of catching someone lying.

Sia Stone:

If someone is lying through their teeth and you can't really see because they're holding it down, but you can, like, you can see.

Sia Stone:

No, man.

Host:

Oh, lord.

Sia Stone:

There's something.

Host:

Game recognized game.

Host:

And you're looking pretty familiar right now.

Host:

You are lying to me.

Host:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

You understand?

Sia Stone:

Opening your third eye just helps you being aware of the space where you are reading the room.

Sia Stone:

If you like that whole feeling, I don't know if people still feel it, but you go into a room and you can feel.

Sia Stone:

Actually, it's feeling a bit.

Host:

I shouldn't be here.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

Or yes, it's a vibe.

Sia Stone:

It's because of the energies that we let out, because our energy centers are not only just on the inside, they go out into our auric field.

Sia Stone:

And you can also probably feel this with people's bubbles.

Sia Stone:

Right?

Sia Stone:

If you standing a bit too close to someone and then they want to step back.

Sia Stone:

Like, you.

Host:

You're in my personal space.

Sia Stone:

Men, get out.

Host:

I should have a stick.

Host:

Like, hey, yeah.

Sia Stone:

That's one thing I really appreciated about COVID But now the social distancing, now people don't get it.

Host:

People are still like, you're standing in line with gas.

Host:

Like, right here.

Host:

Like, you're right here.

Host:

Like, no, you don't need to be this close to me.

Sia Stone:

Like, but there's a lot to yoga.

Sia Stone:

I can really go deep.

Sia Stone:

We do a lot of breath work.

Sia Stone:

It's a lot of.

Sia Stone:

And I like to say this, like, when doing yoga, you really start to feel who you are in the space.

Sia Stone:

You're more aware of your body.

Sia Stone:

And I really like it for people who train on a daily basis, because when you're doing the asanas, you're on the mat, you're doing the things.

Sia Stone:

You're breathing.

Sia Stone:

You can feel your body changing.

Sia Stone:

Your energy centers are opening up.

Sia Stone:

Some of them are getting balanced.

Sia Stone:

You're releasing a whole lot of traumas.

Sia Stone:

But you know what it feels like to be balanced in this spot.

Sia Stone:

Then you go to the gym and you hit a workout, and then you feel a.

Sia Stone:

I'm about to land.

Sia Stone:

Funny.

Sia Stone:

You can catch yourself quickly.

Host:

Is it?

Sia Stone:

You already know, like, especially with hiking.

Sia Stone:

Hiking is a great example where the stones and the rocks are not leveled.

Sia Stone:

Some of them are loose.

Sia Stone:

The moment you take a step, you can already feel that.

Sia Stone:

This one is a bit tricky.

Sia Stone:

Okay, then you're okay.

Sia Stone:

You know that you can step back.

Sia Stone:

Or if.

Sia Stone:

Even if you're doing something, I don't know, like, how do I explain this with, let's say when I'm chatting about myself and I want to get to know myself for myself, and I'm journaling and I'm writing all this stuff down, and I can feel, okay, this feels like it's just pouring out of me.

Sia Stone:

It feels good.

Sia Stone:

And then I try to adjust what I'm trying to think, and then it's like, okay, let me go back to the truth.

Host:

Yeah, yeah.

Sia Stone:

It's not nice sometimes when you see, okay, these are the facts.

Sia Stone:

But those are the facts.

Sia Stone:

These are the facts.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

It's just being aware of yourself, learning how to breathe.

Sia Stone:

It also helps with posture.

Sia Stone:

And this is a chat that a lot of people have about yoga, is that we always try to in the alignment.

Sia Stone:

So when you start, you always want to keep your spine erect.

Sia Stone:

You want to keep the energy centers one on top of the other, so that when you're moving, you're able to keep everything open.

Sia Stone:

You know what I mean?

Sia Stone:

Um, but, yeah, it really is an experience.

Sia Stone:

It's a practice for a reason, because you need to keep going back into it to do it.

Sia Stone:

It's not a one stop shop, as I.

Host:

It's not like I just go there for a tune up and then stop.

Sia Stone:

No, you gotta continue.

Host:

I want to use this term way.

Sia Stone:

Of life, quote unquote, way of life.

Host:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

It is a way of life because you do.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

You are aware of the things that you.

Sia Stone:

You need to do good to yourself, right.

Sia Stone:

When you do good to yourself, you can do good to others.

Sia Stone:

And it's not even a thing of, like, I'm trying because it's who you are.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

And then, controversial question.

Host:

Do people get possessed while doing yoga?

Sia Stone:

So I think the possession part of the yoga comes from the fact that a lot of the sanskrit poses, like the hatha poses do, and even the comedic poses, and I don't want to lie about this, is we mimic the deities or the gods of Sanskrit.

Host:

Sanskrit.

Sia Stone:

Or then the kemetic deities.

Host:

That would be like your horuses and.

Sia Stone:

Yes, your osara.

Sia Stone:

Your oset.

Host:

Who's this other one?

Host:

Is it Osiris?

Sia Stone:

Osiris.

Sia Stone:

Osa.

Host:

Oh, okay.

Sia Stone:

And then Isis is osset.

Host:

Oset.

Host:

Oh, okay.

Host:

I didn't know.

Host:

I just know the names that I know.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Sia Stone:

But you're just mimicking the energies that they carry.

Sia Stone:

So even with, like, a pose, like a yogic squat, that really is.

Sia Stone:

It's a grounding pose to help you with gratification.

Sia Stone:

When you're sitting in that squat, you're open you're very open, right?

Host:

Sure.

Sia Stone:

You're encouraged to keep everything open and then in that pose you just, it's the energy that pose carries of like you're grounded.

Sia Stone:

It's safe to share what you're grateful for.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

You know what I mean?

Sia Stone:

And then there's pose of Osa.

Sia Stone:

Pose of Osa is very like stern, sturdy, rock solid.

Sia Stone:

I've got this, but also doesn't exist without oset.

Sia Stone:

So it's a thing of like I've got masculine energy in me.

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Sia Stone:

But I also have my feminine energy in me, so I'm guided in a balanced way.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

So it's just the energy of.

Sia Stone:

It's not necessarily I am.

Host:

Okay, okay, the pose, yeah, yeah.

Sia Stone:

So I think because there's many gods in these different with the yoga.

Host:

But isn't, doesn't yoga have its roots in, is it, is it Hinduism?

Host:

Is that where originates from?

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Host:

So then how did it get to african kinetic.

Sia Stone:

So, yeah, I.

Sia Stone:

These are the chats, right.

Host:

What's your chat, Sierra?

Host:

What's your chat?

Host:

What's your chat?

Sia Stone:

So from what I remember in my studies is african kemetic yoga is the originator.

Sia Stone:

It comes from Africa, from Egypt.

Sia Stone:

Right.

Sia Stone:

Ancient Egypt.

Host:

Doctor Umar Johnson is going to be very happy to hear.

Sia Stone:

100%, 100%.

Sia Stone:

What happened is back in the day and many years ago, when the people were migrating, the cousins of the ancient Egyptians migrated to India, the Dravidians.

Sia Stone:

The Dravidians took the practice with them because it is a way of life.

Sia Stone:

Took it with them to India.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, they did the things and then they got colonized by the English, the British almost.

Sia Stone:

They merged the yoga with gymnastics.

Host:

Oh, okay, okay.

Sia Stone:

And then it became gymnastics.

Sia Stone:

Gymnastics.

Sia Stone:

A lot of people might be like, you've got this wrong, which is okay, this is the story that I understand.

Host:

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Sia Stone:

So if you've got different facts, come through with it, please, because it's very nice for us to ask her, not me.

Sia Stone:

I don't know, it's nice for us to learn, but this is the story that I remember from the books that I was reading.

Sia Stone:

So that's what happened really.

Sia Stone:

But yoga is.

Sia Stone:

Yoga is yoga.

Sia Stone:

It has the same effect of alignment, getting to know yourself, being aware of yourself, doing good to yourself, because it is then, like I said, body, mind and spirit, what you're consuming, be it food, information, music, what you're smelling like, you know what I mean?

Host:

So you pretty much have to mind everything that you do.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

Like how are you breathing, you know, like exactly I mean, you can already feel panting, like that is going to make you anxious.

Sia Stone:

So when you already feel like you're.

Host:

Worked up, like, oh, this person is trying me today, then you just like.

Sia Stone:

Because we teach people how to breathe different ways, then you like, another breath that I like to do if I'm starting to get like.

Sia Stone:

Is just like curling my tongue, and then.

Host:

I already feel calm on this.

Sia Stone:

It's like the.

Sia Stone:

It's cooling.

Sia Stone:

It's a cooling breast.

Host:

Oh, is it?

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

And it really does cool you down.

Sia Stone:

You're like, okay, where does.

Host:

What does wusa come from?

Host:

From bad boys two.

Host:

I love that I can't do it here because where does it come from?

Sia Stone:

I actually don't even know.

Host:

Oh, is it okay?

Host:

It's not a yoga thing.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

All right.

Host:

Yes, yes, yes.

Sia Stone:

Relax.

Host:

Yes.

Host:

The taxi driver cut you off again.

Host:

It's okay.

Sia Stone:

No, but I feel like now for.

Sia Stone:

If you've been driving for a while.

Host:

And you've been in South Africa, you must know, you.

Sia Stone:

You just need to give them away because let them go on a strike.

Host:

Just, ah, it's a madness.

Host:

If the taxi drivers go, there we go.

Host:

I don't want them to go on.

Sia Stone:

No, exactly.

Host:

So just drive.

Sia Stone:

Guys, they are helping the economy.

Sia Stone:

Economy.

Host:

They've been building that economy like that for a very long time.

Sia Stone:

Let's let them have their spot.

Host:

Yes.

Sia Stone:

Even if they stop in the middle of the road.

Sia Stone:

It's their spot.

Host:

Yeah, it's their spot.

Host:

They stop in the middle of the road.

Host:

Like, I don't even get.

Host:

I don't even get upset.

Sia Stone:

I appreciate the hazards when they put their lights on.

Sia Stone:

You know, I'm like, I'm grateful that you actually get it.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, but in the middle of the road, bro.

Host:

Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey.

Host:

Someone is on the way to feed their family.

Host:

That's.

Host:

That's it.

Host:

I'm not.

Host:

I'm not going to stand, shout out.

Sia Stone:

To the taxi driver's, yo, taxi boss on the show.

Host:

But, uh, do it.

Sia Stone:

What?

Host:

Me?

Host:

I don't want to die.

Host:

I don't want to die.

Host:

So, guys, if you know a taxi boss out there who is safe?

Host:

I just want to just chat about the business model around the taxi industry.

Host:

I don't want.

Sia Stone:

Look, I feel like some of them are actually really nice.

Sia Stone:

I don't think.

Sia Stone:

I think they need to be, like, rough and tough because of the industry.

Sia Stone:

You've heard stories, but when have you never heard stories anywhere?

Host:

There are some stories that I am more afraid of than others.

Sia Stone:

I'm sure there's the samburi me.

Host:

I'll find them.

Host:

I'll find them.

Host:

But I just.

Host:

I just want to die.

Sia Stone:

No, you won't.

Sia Stone:

Come on.

Host:

I just want to die.

Host:

Yeah, I'll find them.

Host:

The day I remember doing some consulting work for Sa taxi.

Host:

They're the guys that fund taxi owners for their.

Host:

For their buses and for their cars.

Host:

No wonder these guys are so angry.

Host:

Do you know what you need to go through just to get insurance and funding for a vitaxing?

Host:

My gosh.

Host:

No, no, no, no.

Host:

Guys, there has to be a better way.

Host:

No, no, no, no.

Host:

The interest rates are.

Host:

Matt, I sort of get that.

Host:

The application, the background checks, all of that.

Host:

It's like, sort of you being self employed and then you want a loan from a bank.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

Think about that process a hundred times harder, because then they'll ask you questions, like being some guys and stuff.

Host:

They'll ask you questions because I do work for a bank.

Host:

Right.

Host:

So then I understand the question that they'll ask you.

Host:

Okay, so, sia, on this day, when that debit order went off, but then it was returned, what happened?

Host:

They questioned everything.

Host:

Everything.

Host:

Oh, geez.

Host:

Like, yeah, I'm gonna get a taxi pass on.

Host:

Yeah, do it.

Sia Stone:

I think there's.

Sia Stone:

There's definitely one that's keen.

Host:

Well, that's keen.

Host:

Yeah, send them through.

Host:

Send them through.

Host:

Yeah, I'll make sure.

Host:

I'll move my guests for next week.

Host:

Yeah, 100%.

Host:

So.

Host:

So, basically, when you're on the road, you're seeing a taxi driver cut you off, you can just do that pose, right?

Host:

Do that pose.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

They're just feeding the family.

Host:

They're just.

Sia Stone:

They're feeding the family.

Sia Stone:

I literally, that's, like, the one thing that I always say to myself if I start to go into, like, a negative.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

Thought process, like, I.

Sia Stone:

The moment I catch myself, I, like, poor myself with positivity, like, overflow, so that I can.

Host:

How do you.

Host:

How do you do that for a lot of people?

Host:

Because, um, I don't, if you understand, I know this, uh, you.

Host:

A lot of people are angry.

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Host:

They just.

Host:

They're just angry.

Host:

Unprovoked at work in shopping malls and shopping centers.

Host:

The cashiers are unhappy.

Host:

The people who are working at the gym are unhappy sometimes.

Host:

All of them.

Host:

Not notion, act of select.

Host:

I mean, I.

Host:

Everyone's great there.

Host:

Right?

Host:

Right.

Host:

I.

Host:

Right, right.

Host:

Okay, maybe not so a lot of people.

Host:

A lot of people.

Host:

Don't break my heart here.

Host:

A lot of people are.

Host:

I feel that the anger that they have and the hostility that they have is, it's too much.

Host:

And I don't think it's rooted in something that is.

Host:

I don't know what the word is that it's, it's that.

Host:

Not that it's viable, that it's actually, they're making things out of things that are not things.

Host:

You know what I mean?

Host:

So with the people that are very angry, wholesale, what are some of the practices that you will suggest that they take and how do they pour themselves with positivity?

Host:

Like, how do you do it?

Sia Stone:

Look, those things are hectic, first and foremost, because you need to be keen to change your mindset.

Sia Stone:

It's a mindset thing.

Sia Stone:

Who are you spending the most time with?

Sia Stone:

Yourself.

Host:

Yep.

Host:

That is true.

Sia Stone:

You are with yourself every single time.

Sia Stone:

Sleeping, waking, all the days.

Sia Stone:

If you're tired of being sick and tired of being angry, upset, always, things will happen.

Sia Stone:

And you are now able to take that and be like, okay, it's on me, then we can move.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, you can do the things.

Sia Stone:

But if you're still gonna be like that person, this situation.

Host:

Yeah, yeah.

Sia Stone:

I'm just gonna let you vent.

Host:

But isn't it easier to do your thing, blame other people and be angry at other people isn't easier?

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

Okay, then for me to look at.

Sia Stone:

Myself and like, why would you want to blame yourself?

Host:

Why?

Host:

Why, Meena?

Host:

As perfect as I am, Mina, it's all you people.

Sia Stone:

Magic.

Sia Stone:

I'm the greatest.

Host:

I am the greatest.

Sia Stone:

It's tough.

Sia Stone:

It really is tough.

Sia Stone:

And I will stick by this.

Sia Stone:

It is a mindset thing.

Sia Stone:

I'm very grateful.

Sia Stone:

Look, the people who reminded me, the herbalife community, my yoga teacher who shut it down, Ursula, they gave me books.

Sia Stone:

I read the books.

Sia Stone:

Things that I had to practice to get into this mindset.

Sia Stone:

And being okay with that, understanding what negative energy does to you, and then how you can just use the positive energy and help mask that.

Sia Stone:

I've been told many times that I'm on, like, a toxic positivity train or I'm way too positive.

Sia Stone:

How is that?

Host:

And I'm like, help me understand.

Sia Stone:

No, I don't understand.

Sia Stone:

So I can help you understand.

Host:

Help me understand.

Host:

They use the words toxic positivity?

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Host:

The last time I checked, they don't.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

What's that thing in English?

Sia Stone:

I don't know.

Sia Stone:

What?

Sia Stone:

It's oxymoron.

Host:

It's not an oxymoron.

Host:

Right.

Host:

It doesn't work like the two opposite things.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

Look, I don't get it.

Sia Stone:

And, yeah, I don't know.

Host:

So maybe your positivity is being toxic.

Sia Stone:

To them, probably because it was a.

Sia Stone:

I remember.

Sia Stone:

I don't want to say names, but I was having a chat with a friend, and it was a thing of like, but how are we gonna get a car?

Sia Stone:

Like, the stresses of this and that?

Sia Stone:

Where's the money for this?

Sia Stone:

And I was like, just put it out into the universe.

Sia Stone:

Be grateful for this car that you don't have.

Sia Stone:

Like, I'm grateful I have this car.

Sia Stone:

I'm grateful that I get to pour.

Host:

Petrol in this car until the petrol prices go up.

Sia Stone:

No, because when the petrol price goes up, this means that more money is coming in.

Host:

Sure, sure.

Sia Stone:

Right.

Sia Stone:

For you to afford that.

Sia Stone:

Right.

Sia Stone:

So just being in that mindset, but that whole thing, I don't think they were understanding what was going on or where I was coming from.

Sia Stone:

They were like, you were definitely starting.

Host:

There you go.

Host:

With all your positivity, actually.

Sia Stone:

You know what I mean?

Sia Stone:

I will say that it's helped me a lot.

Sia Stone:

Like, I would not be able to be at the place that I'm in.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

Without that mindset of, I can do this, and the universe has got me.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

Can you give us a time where you're, like, other than Covid, or you can use Covid, whatever it is, where you're, like, you're filled in.

Host:

You're in this negative space, negative mindset, negative time, negative situation.

Host:

Then you were able to flip it around with your toxic positivity.

Sia Stone:

Sure.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

I remember I was actually hosting my first herbalife boot camp at Galuli's farm.

Sia Stone:

And I had invited all these people from Facebook, my friends.

Sia Stone:

I was like, homies, we are doing this.

Sia Stone:

Got food, got all my shakes, got all the mats, got tables, got clothes.

Sia Stone:

I literally got everything.

Sia Stone:

And then I.

Sia Stone:

Night before.

Sia Stone:

Sorry, Sia, I can't make it.

Sia Stone:

Sorry, Sia, I'm not gonna make it.

Sia Stone:

And legit.

Sia Stone:

Everyone other than one said that they weren't able to make it.

Sia Stone:

Listen, with every single.

Sia Stone:

Sia, I can't make it.

Sia Stone:

My heart.

Sia Stone:

Do you understand?

Host:

You don't understand.

Sia Stone:

My heart was beating like that.

Sia Stone:

So hard, so sore.

Sia Stone:

But I was like, no.

Host:

Do you do the Denzel Washington?

Host:

You think you can do this to me?

Host:

I put in cases at all.

Host:

You people shoot program lockdown.

Sia Stone:

No, I was saying, so many people are coming to this place.

Host:

Oh, this pooch.

Host:

You carried on saying that even though people.

Sia Stone:

Even though these messages were coming in and I was filling it up, my heart would be so sore.

Sia Stone:

And I would fill up with, I'm so excited.

Sia Stone:

So many people are coming to this boot camp.

Sia Stone:

It's going to be the greatest bootcamp I've ever hosted.

Sia Stone:

It's going to be amazing.

Sia Stone:

Everyone's going to love it.

Sia Stone:

Love it.

Sia Stone:

I kept on saying it with every single cancellation.

Sia Stone:

Then come the day, and I was like, yeah, the mats are laid out.

Sia Stone:

I've got my table, I've got my shakes, I've got my food, all the things.

Sia Stone:

It's game time and it's game time, but one mat is full.

Sia Stone:

I was like, wow, one mat.

Sia Stone:

One mat.

Sia Stone:

I was like, okay, cool.

Sia Stone:

No, it's fine.

Sia Stone:

My mom came.

Sia Stone:

That friend that was the one who did not cancel still came through.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

There were so many people at Galuli's farm, I had no space.

Sia Stone:

Like, everyone came through to fill it up.

Host:

So people who you didn't invite happened to be there still?

Sia Stone:

No, the people I invited didn't come.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, but the people at Galuli, at.

Host:

The farm, that's what I'm referring to.

Host:

At the farm.

Host:

They decided to go.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

Oh, wow, look at that.

Sia Stone:

They came through, they filled it up.

Sia Stone:

I got all how Philip Coululy is.

Sia Stone:

It was a true success because I got a whole lot of clients from them.

Sia Stone:

That was when I knew that, no, this thing works.

Sia Stone:

This thing works.

Sia Stone:

You just gotta also radiate that positive energy, because also, if you're in that vibe.

Sia Stone:

I was gonna say the other vibes.

Host:

Yeah, that.

Host:

Those.

Host:

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Sia Stone:

If you're in those vibes.

Host:

Yeah, yeah.

Sia Stone:

Then you're gonna.

Sia Stone:

People are gonna feel that.

Sia Stone:

You're gonna just spread that out to a whole lot of people.

Sia Stone:

But if you're vibrating on a high frequency of love and positive energy, there is no way it's going to go wrong.

Sia Stone:

Even when there's delays, even when things are not going right.

Sia Stone:

Grateful.

Sia Stone:

I'm grateful for this delay.

Sia Stone:

I'm grateful that this person wasn't able to show up.

Sia Stone:

Yes, I'm hurt, but I'm grateful because God is steering me in the right direction.

Sia Stone:

I don't know where.

Host:

But you're a much better person than I am.

Host:

People don't know this.

Sia Stone:

What?

Host:

But I'm very petty.

Host:

Oh, my goodness.

Host:

I am Petty.

Host:

I am.

Host:

Oh, I'm very petty.

Sia Stone:

Did you see your eyes?

Host:

Even you were like, you go to cancel on me.

Host:

Okay, all right.

Host:

Okay, all right.

Host:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

You see that?

Sia Stone:

It's great.

Host:

I need to work on my pettiness.

Host:

I'm going to admit I go to be open, honest.

Host:

I need to work out my pet school.

Host:

Wow.

Sia Stone:

Look, we were supposed to be sitting here many, like, a long time ago.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

But now I'm here as an owner.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

Like, now.

Host:

Now I think.

Host:

I think this was the right time.

Sia Stone:

It was the perfect time.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, yeah, the perfect time.

Sia Stone:

So.

Host:

Yeah, so, geez.

Host:

Like, wow.

Host:

I would have been like, you cancel on me.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

All right.

Host:

You think you could do this to me?

Sia Stone:

My time?

Host:

I'm putting cases on all.

Host:

All of you.

Host:

All of.

Host:

And then when I become successful.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

Guess what I do?

Host:

I do.

Host:

I do what Steve Harvey did to death to his teacher.

Host:

You know what he does to his teacher?

Host:

What did he do to teach you?

Host:

Like, my pettiness is like, I need to work on that.

Host:

Like, y'all.

Host:

You pray for me.

Host:

Pray for me in my pettiness.

Host:

Steve Harvey's a teacher.

Host:

Told him you'll never be on tv.

Sia Stone:

Oh, yes, I remember this one.

Host:

And then now that he's made it, every single Thanksgiving, every year, he sends her a big screen.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, yeah, yeah, I remember that.

Host:

I would have.

Host:

I would have made a note to everyone who canceled.

Host:

And the day I'm big, I'm sending them yoga mats.

Host:

Yoga mats out every single day that they were there.

Sia Stone:

That is so hectic.

Host:

Oh, my goodness.

Sia Stone:

Noise.

Host:

Oh, man.

Host:

Yeah, okay.

Host:

No, that's.

Host:

That's very good.

Host:

Well, I mean, well done.

Host:

Well done, well done, well done.

Host:

Let's keep that going.

Host:

That's good.

Host:

So for those people who want to start preparing for, like, a marathon or like, a fitness go for, this is.

Host:

Let's just take a marathon.

Host:

So it is coming up to oceans is going up.

Host:

People want to do comrades.

Host:

Someone says, okay, sia, you are a health and wellness coach.

Host:

You're a girl boss, owner of Misfit reference.

Host:

Now.

Host:

You miss and then fit.

Host:

You're a misfit.

Host:

Yeah, yeah.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

She owns misfit now.

Host:

She thinks she can do whatever she wants around here.

Host:

You know, people say that.

Host:

You know, some people say that probably.

Sia Stone:

It's okay.

Sia Stone:

I appreciate that.

Host:

Doesn't matter.

Sia Stone:

One of you come with the energy.

Host:

Come with the energy.

Host:

Yeah, yeah.

Host:

And then I'll send you your comments.

Host:

So if I want to prepare for a.

Host:

I've never done a marathon a day in my life.

Host:

Never done a marathon.

Host:

What are you going to recommend that I do in terms of the training?

Host:

Maybe the yoga, maybe the diet mindset.

Host:

What would you say I should do?

Sia Stone:

So definitely yoga.

Sia Stone:

Yoga for endurance.

Host:

Endurance.

Sia Stone:

We're definitely going to have to do a lot of, like, yin yoga is a very, like, stretch based yoga.

Sia Stone:

Tends to the ligaments, your tendons.

Sia Stone:

It does tend to the muscles.

Sia Stone:

It also, like, goes deep into the energy centers.

Sia Stone:

With the yoga, you'll obviously get into a nice, healthy Mindset every single time.

Sia Stone:

When we have a yoga session, we always have an intention, or I will always encourage the people to think about things that they're grateful for and we take it on.

Sia Stone:

And I mean, for an hour, if you are being reminded about the things that you're grateful for and a positive intention, you're going to leave there feeling light.

Sia Stone:

So I'll definitely get into that.

Sia Stone:

My thing is, because I'm learning a lot more in my industry, is I would definitely refer them to a biokineticist.

Host:

If I'm being honest, is that the straight person?

Sia Stone:

That is the person who will tend to all your things in your body.

Host:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

With regards to your food, you need to eat.

Sia Stone:

You need to eat.

Sia Stone:

Don't tell me you're gonna go run a whole marathon and you're not chowing.

Sia Stone:

No, you need to have your breakfast.

Sia Stone:

A nice, healthy breakfast.

Sia Stone:

You need to have your snacks.

Host:

Can you go with a healthy breakfast?

Sia Stone:

You have to.

Host:

Can't I have my chocolate and wine for breakfast?

Sia Stone:

Look, let's balance it out.

Host:

I love how she's not saying no.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, no, no, no.

Sia Stone:

I don't want to say no, because we're human living in the world that we're living in right now with the influences that we have.

Sia Stone:

So let's not take it out.

Sia Stone:

Let's just not have as much.

Host:

Oh, okay.

Host:

Just taper it down.

Sia Stone:

Yes, taper it down.

Sia Stone:

But on your day to day, like, look, after what you're consuming, it has to be healthy.

Sia Stone:

You have to have your snacks.

Sia Stone:

You need to have a healthy lunch.

Sia Stone:

You need to have a healthy snack after lunch.

Sia Stone:

You need to have a nice, healthy supper.

Sia Stone:

And depending on what time you're going to sleep, you need to have your snack before you go to bed.

Host:

Right?

Host:

So if I go to sleep around like eight, nine pm, when should I have a snack?

Host:

Well, I'm asking for a friend.

Host:

I'm asking for me.

Host:

I'm asking for a friend.

Sia Stone:

So if you're having dinner at five or six, yeah, yeah.

Sia Stone:

Then 2 hours after that.

Sia Stone:

But if you're gonna sleep soon after that, then maybe, like, just like, let it not be something with sugar.

Sia Stone:

Maybe even just a protein would be great.

Host:

What if I like my sugar?

Host:

If I go to sleep?

Sia Stone:

No, no, no.

Sia Stone:

Sorry.

Sia Stone:

No, no.

Sia Stone:

Like straight up.

Host:

No, no, no.

Sia Stone:

Ulala Ganjani.

Sia Stone:

Your body's busy digesting you can't dream nicely, my bro.

Sia Stone:

How are you dreaming?

Host:

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Sia Stone:

It needs.

Sia Stone:

No, no, no.

Host:

The judgment.

Host:

The judgment that's going.

Sia Stone:

It's not even the judgment.

Sia Stone:

It's just being aware.

Sia Stone:

You need to be aware of how your body moves also.

Sia Stone:

This is why.

Sia Stone:

And like, probably, like, completely out of it.

Sia Stone:

But life orientation deprived us of things that we need to learn.

Sia Stone:

What do you mean we need to learn tax.

Sia Stone:

We need to learn every, like, financial literacy.

Sia Stone:

We need yoga in life orientation.

Sia Stone:

Yes, we've got Pe, but that's PE.

Host:

Just go kick a ball.

Sia Stone:

No, no.

Sia Stone:

Tell me about my body, how it moves.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, teach me how to breathe.

Sia Stone:

What is the economy looking like in Saudi?

Sia Stone:

And in the world, let that not just be in business.

Host:

The economy is great, man.

Host:

What are you talking about?

Sia Stone:

What am I talking about?

Host:

What are you talking about?

Host:

Economy is great.

Host:

No, no, no.

Host:

Let's be, let's be real.

Host:

I love positivity, but, uh, but, yeah.

Sia Stone:

It'S challenging, but it's, but in that, like, let's, it doesn't have to be positive for us to learn about it to know what's going on in the world.

Sia Stone:

You know what I mean?

Sia Stone:

Like, yeah.

Sia Stone:

I don't think they did enough for life or end.

Host:

It's life orientation.

Sia Stone:

Orientation.

Host:

I'm like, guys, like, let it.

Host:

I wish they should.

Host:

They didn't teach me to not be petty.

Host:

They, that's, they, they did me a disservice.

Sia Stone:

I think also they rushed through the whole thing.

Sia Stone:

Like, let's, let's, yeah.

Sia Stone:

I don't know.

Sia Stone:

It is what it is.

Sia Stone:

Anyways, we're here now living life.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

So, so then, like, what would constitute healthy breakfast lunch at a very basic level.

Sia Stone:

Okay, so the, my go to is the herbalife products.

Sia Stone:

I'll have my herbalife shake.

Sia Stone:

I'll have a Formula one shake with a PDM.

Sia Stone:

Or I'll have my rebuild strength.

Host:

What is PDM now?

Sia Stone:

PDM is a protein drink mix.

Host:

Oh, yeah, yeah, I've seen that.

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Sia Stone:

So two scoops of formula, one shake, and then two scoops of protein drink mix, and I'm good to go.

Sia Stone:

Some people like to add banana, others will have, like, oats.

Sia Stone:

But you just need to feed your body with like, a nice vitamin boost.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, a protein boost.

Sia Stone:

Something that will fill you up nicely until your next snack in the morning.

Host:

Sure.

Host:

And then what would that next snack be?

Sia Stone:

The next snack would be a protein with a carbohydrate.

Sia Stone:

So let's say an apple with bultong.

Host:

An apple with bolton?

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Host:

I thought you was going to say banana nicotine.

Host:

I mean.

Host:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

Let'S keep the banana.

Host:

Let's keep the.

Host:

I caught.

Sia Stone:

And then the egg from the quarter Maru.

Sia Stone:

The egg, the quarter.

Host:

Bread.

Host:

No.

Host:

Okay, let's have a couple boiled eggs and banana, right?

Sia Stone:

Sure.

Host:

All right, cool.

Host:

Let's.

Sia Stone:

Let's do that.

Host:

That rather.

Host:

Hey.

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Host:

The aromat or not?

Sia Stone:

Okay.

Host:

No.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

So no aromatic, guys.

Host:

No aromatic salt.

Host:

No salt.

Sia Stone:

Look, add your.

Sia Stone:

Just not too much.

Sia Stone:

The thing is that these are the chats, right?

Sia Stone:

It has to be balanced.

Sia Stone:

That's the only.

Sia Stone:

And what is balanced, if you're taking, I don't know.

Sia Stone:

Also, like, people eat different.

Sia Stone:

Like not too much salt.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, too much aromat.

Sia Stone:

Aromat is good.

Sia Stone:

Tastes like it makes a meal.

Host:

It slaps.

Sia Stone:

It slaps so hard.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, but sukale la I aroma tsingkati going to finish or it's been borrowed.

Host:

Maybe it has been borrowed.

Host:

Maybe it's about to finish.

Sia Stone:

Even if it's been borrowed.

Sia Stone:

Don't overdo it.

Host:

This is how you work up a health and wellness coach, by saying ridiculously.

Sia Stone:

You can already see me tweaking, right?

Sia Stone:

Cheapers.

Sia Stone:

What?

Host:

Like, honestly, some guy was joking to me and said, I have a balanced meal.

Host:

Every time I'm like, I have a McDonald's burger in each hand.

Host:

It's a balanced.

Sia Stone:

It's balanced.

Sia Stone:

Do you understand?

Sia Stone:

And I hear him.

Sia Stone:

I hear him.

Sia Stone:

It is balanced.

Host:

It's not bad.

Host:

What are we doing?

Sia Stone:

No, it's balancing each hand.

Host:

Yeah, that's what he means.

Host:

But really, is it the.

Sia Stone:

No, no, no.

Host:

Is it the.

Sia Stone:

And then you'll have another snack, which is a protein and a carbohydrate.

Sia Stone:

And then your healthy supper.

Sia Stone:

Dinner meal.

Sia Stone:

Right.

Sia Stone:

For me, I'm on a maintenance plan, so I'm not looking to lose weight.

Sia Stone:

But it's different for everyone.

Sia Stone:

If you want to lose weight, we recommend two shakes.

Sia Stone:

I always like to have my clients have their shake for breakfast and then for supper.

Host:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

And then for lunch.

Sia Stone:

It needs to be a nice meal, you know, green with greens, veggies, protein, vegetables.

Sia Stone:

Protein.

Sia Stone:

A carbohydrate, so not a carbon.

Sia Stone:

Carbohydrates are good.

Sia Stone:

We need them.

Sia Stone:

It's energy.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, but we need carbohydrates.

Sia Stone:

But just don't have Igor, guys.

Host:

I was.

Host:

That's exactly where I was going.

Host:

I was going to Igor Kota.

Sia Stone:

Loaf.

Host:

K o t r.

Host:

It's not quarter k o T.

Host:

A cheapest last number.

Sia Stone:

Jonga have it.

Sia Stone:

This is what I'll say.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, you can have your quarter, let's say Monday.

Host:

Sure.

Sia Stone:

And then you'll see it again next week.

Host:

Next week?

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

Don't have it the next.

Host:

Uh huh.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

Don't you remind me of my dietitian.

Host:

No.

Host:

My dietitian.

Host:

I was asking you these exact same questions.

Host:

I was like, what about KFC?

Host:

I've got a.

Host:

I've got a.

Host:

I've got a word for that.

Host:

I'll tell you offline because I don't want to get cancelled.

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Host:

I'll tell you.

Host:

You know that word that starts with a k?

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

I don't want to.

Host:

You know that word?

Host:

You know that word?

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

Hold that word.

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Host:

That word.

Host:

First choice.

Host:

That's what.

Sia Stone:

Oh, my gosh.

Sia Stone:

And I've heard that one before.

Sia Stone:

I have.

Sia Stone:

That's insane.

Host:

But on the line, though, I mean, like, have you been here?

Sia Stone:

But it's not really.

Sia Stone:

It really isn't.

Host:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

Go to the view and then Bedford view, and then you'll see if it really means that.

Host:

You know, the view is a different country on its own.

Host:

I believe sometimes with the people that are there, I'm like.

Sia Stone:

Or maybe even here on Lingsfield drive.

Host:

Yeah, that's true.

Sia Stone:

It's different.

Sia Stone:

It's not.

Sia Stone:

It doesn't apply anymore.

Host:

It doesn't apply anymore.

Host:

No, not as much.

Sia Stone:

No.

Host:

Maybe chicken, Nikki.

Host:

Maybe I don't.

Host:

Yeah, I know chicken.

Host:

I don't know.

Host:

Let's be honest.

Host:

Let's be real.

Host:

Let's be real.

Host:

I'm a realist here.

Host:

You know what I'm talking?

Host:

Okay, cool.

Host:

So what do you say to those people who want to get rid of belly fat and get this six pack on?

Host:

Because every.

Host:

When does summer start?

Host:

Now?

Sia Stone:

Summers.

Sia Stone:

Well, here in South Africa, it's already started.

Host:

Okay, so, like, if you were to pick a month where summer starts, right?

Host:

Where would that be?

Sia Stone:

I would.

Sia Stone:

I would say October.

Sia Stone:

October or November.

Sia Stone:

Because it's November.

Sia Stone:

December.

Sia Stone:

January.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

So, right.

Host:

Every single year on the 1 January, what's the first thing people say they're going to do?

Sia Stone:

New Year's resolution.

Host:

Yes.

Host:

The first one on the list is not change their boyfriend or change their girlfriend or make money cut tops with people that we all know you guys are going to do every single year.

Host:

But they say, I'm going to get myself in shape.

Host:

I'm going to get that six pack.

Host:

And then the gyms are packed.

Host:

Not the select clubs.

Host:

Of course the gyms are packed.

Sia Stone:

Thank you.

Host:

We don't have to bring all shoes get polished.

Host:

My shoes get polished.

Host:

My clothes get prayed.

Host:

Listen, listen here.

Sia Stone:

Like, my favorite is the bathrooms, but anyways.

Host:

Oh, geez.

Host:

Like, the jacuzzis.

Host:

Ah, bro, jacuzzis.

Host:

But not just one multiple ease.

Host:

I can read the latest, uh, business day.

Sia Stone:

It really is a beautiful.

Host:

I can get, like, listen, I get my, my fruit allocation just from there.

Sia Stone:

Do you understand?

Sia Stone:

You don't.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, I love.

Host:

And the best thing is, like, I don't have a queue for equipment.

Host:

No, I've, I haven't, haven't queued for equipment in a very long time.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, it feels good.

Host:

I took my, my homie who stays with me there, I'm like, let me ruin your life.

Host:

Actually, no, because I got him a guest pass.

Host:

I'm like, let me ruin your life.

Host:

Virgil active.

Host:

You guys did the best with this thing.

Host:

I get on my guest pass.

Host:

Like, come with me.

Host:

We went to the Sandton one, right?

Sia Stone:

Yeah, yeah.

Host:

Because they had the Jacuzzi bigger.

Host:

That's the only reason.

Host:

Jacuzzi is bigger.

Host:

So I'm like, yeah, guys take them on a tour.

Host:

They went out.

Host:

The worker, they worked area outside.

Host:

Or if you've been to Alice, then you've been there working area outside the, the treadmills that charge your phone, like, like the hanging yoga thing there.

Host:

I think they're discontinuing that, by the way.

Host:

They're doing sound baths now.

Sia Stone:

Um, I think, yeah, they might be adding it because sound bath has been added to most of the va's.

Host:

Oh, is it, is it?

Host:

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Host:

All of that.

Host:

And then, like, we don't, don't have Kawhi.

Host:

We've got new.

Host:

Hey.

Sia Stone:

New.

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Host:

Hey.

Sia Stone:

It's nice.

Host:

You press my clothes, you shine my shoes.

Host:

Jeffrey's there.

Host:

Just like anything pressed.

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Host:

How I don't have to bring tiles.

Host:

It's like how much?

Host:

I'm like, fine, that's.

Host:

I'll do it, I'll do it.

Host:

I'll do it.

Host:

Guys, if you go to gym more than five times a week, you ought.

Sia Stone:

To go to the ones, the collections.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

So.

Host:

So basically they get to the beginning of the year.

Host:

They say, I'm going to get my summer body.

Host:

I'm going to make this a priority for the first three months.

Host:

That's actually too long.

Host:

For the first three weeks, everyone is at the gym.

Host:

And after that, quiet, quiet.

Host:

It's my favorite time.

Host:

I'm like, look at the side of silence.

Host:

Drop a pen.

Host:

I heard it.

Host:

So that is one of the biggest, if not the biggest news resolution people want to make is I'm going to lose the weight or I'm going to gain the muscle or whatever the case is.

Host:

So what do you say to someone who's trying to get rid of belly fat and trying to get a six pack?

Host:

Yeah, I need to get my six pack back because of all that chocolate I was eating.

Host:

As I was stressed.

Host:

I was stressed.

Sia Stone:

So I will always say it starts in the kitchen.

Sia Stone:

Okay, but I was hoping you were.

Host:

Not going to say that.

Sia Stone:

No, but we know this.

Sia Stone:

It starts in the kitchen.

Host:

I want to lie to myself.

Host:

No, I want my chakra here to just lock.

Host:

Allow me to lie to myself.

Host:

Oh, geez.

Sia Stone:

Like, sure.

Sia Stone:

But there are many different body types out there, and everyone is going through their own.

Host:

Tell us about body types, because I hear a lot about that.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, well, they've got different shapes.

Sia Stone:

You've got the apple shape and the pear shape and then the triangle.

Sia Stone:

Not the triangle under the rectangle shape.

Sia Stone:

There's just many.

Sia Stone:

But I don't necessarily want to take a deep dive into that.

Host:

But people have got telling me that round is a shape.

Sia Stone:

Round is definitely a shape.

Host:

So, guys, if you are round, you are in shape.

Sia Stone:

It is a shape, but you work with your shape.

Sia Stone:

So people have got thyroid issues.

Sia Stone:

Other people, they've got their own things going on.

Sia Stone:

It's multiple things.

Sia Stone:

So there's, again, it's not a one size fits all, but generally.

Host:

Generally speaking, yeah.

Sia Stone:

It will start in the kitchen within your two shakes a day and your nice, colorful meal with your hydration, at least two liters of water on a.

Host:

Daily basis, and no quarter there.

Sia Stone:

But you have a cheat meal.

Host:

A cheat meal.

Host:

Not a day like this person.

Host:

Like, give us.

Sia Stone:

A cheat meal.

Sia Stone:

Not a cheat day.

Host:

I'm never inviting you again.

Host:

What is that?

Sia Stone:

So many steps back.

Sia Stone:

You've done.

Sia Stone:

You've made so much progress.

Sia Stone:

And then.

Host:

Can I have my eye spine?

Host:

Can I have eye spine?

Host:

No.

Sia Stone:

Do you think no?

Host:

I'm nyabooza.

Sia Stone:

Balance it out.

Host:

You can say no.

Host:

You can.

Sia Stone:

Do you think no?

Sia Stone:

I don't want to say no because I also have my cheek given.

Host:

No?

Host:

No.

Host:

I'm saying given the goal that has been set.

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Host:

I want to get rid of.

Host:

Buy a belly fat.

Sia Stone:

No, you need to be strict on yourself.

Sia Stone:

Let's.

Sia Stone:

Let's get it together.

Host:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

But also, like, it's a mind, but I always say it's a mindset thing.

Sia Stone:

Does this person really want to do this?

Sia Stone:

Sure, because we know that there are people.

Sia Stone:

No, I just want to do it for.

Sia Stone:

And then it's not a must for them.

Host:

It's a shirt.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

So you need to catch those ones who are really into it.

Sia Stone:

Even the ones who are like, okay, you, New year's resolution?

Sia Stone:

I'm not too sure, but I'm just going to try it out and then Yanni Umtu will just try it out.

Sia Stone:

There's a difference between trying and doing, right?

Sia Stone:

Others will do it.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

So, yeah, like, I'll try low fat ice cream.

Host:

Doesn't work.

Host:

But.

Sia Stone:

But you've tried.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

And then we go back to full, full cream.

Sia Stone:

Milk that ice cream in there.

Sia Stone:

Yes, do it.

Sia Stone:

But, and there's.

Sia Stone:

There's nothing wrong with that.

Sia Stone:

There's really nothing wrong with that.

Sia Stone:

But your six pack will start in the kitchen.

Sia Stone:

Also with the stress hormone cortisol.

Sia Stone:

You need to balance that out.

Host:

How do you manage that stress hormone?

Host:

Because people work stressful jobs, live stressful lives.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

They support Manchester United.

Host:

Shameful guys.

Host:

They've been stressed every day.

Sia Stone:

These are the shots that are being fired.

Host:

These are not shots.

Host:

I have got good friends that are being abused every day by Manchester United.

Host:

Man United.

Host:

Please stop.

Host:

Please stop.

Host:

They must stop.

Host:

They must stop.

Host:

Are you a manufactant?

Host:

It's not your fault.

Host:

Are you a man?

Host:

You fan?

Sia Stone:

I don't watch or follow soccer.

Host:

Oh, okay.

Sia Stone:

I'm not that girl.

Host:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

But I've recently taken a deep dive into rugby.

Host:

Okay, so this is why you look so great.

Host:

You don't support Man United.

Host:

Guys wanna look good.

Sia Stone:

Stop.

Host:

Stop following Man United.

Host:

There's not no positivity.

Host:

The world can save you from that.

Host:

There's a guy following a team called Chelsea and they trusted sometimes themselves.

Sia Stone:

But anyway, yeah, look again, you need, like, you need to balance it out for yourself if you're gonna live stressful lives.

Sia Stone:

And it's.

Sia Stone:

Sometimes it's a thing that you need to do because you need to feed yourself, you need to feed the family.

Sia Stone:

And, you know, but even with that, being able to say no, like, that's a very powerful stress reliever.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

And it might even put on stress for some to say no, but to then be comfortable in saying no to things that you actually know you shouldn't be doing because it's going to stress.

Host:

You out even more.

Sia Stone:

And then also knowing that if you're going to do something that's going to stress you out even more, you need to then get into something that's going to help de stress you.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

Right.

Sia Stone:

Exercise is a great way, eating healthy is a great way, yoga is a great way.

Sia Stone:

Breath work is a great way.

Sia Stone:

Taking a walk is a great way.

Sia Stone:

Dancing, man.

Sia Stone:

You want to go to the club?

Sia Stone:

You haven't been to the club in the longest time.

Host:

I'm your shaver.

Host:

Do the burpees version of you.

Sia Stone:

For real.

Sia Stone:

But I'm being serious.

Sia Stone:

People need to do things that they enjoyed.

Sia Stone:

Go take a coloring book.

Sia Stone:

Paper pen.

Sia Stone:

Go draw.

Host:

Play FIFA.

Sia Stone:

Play FIFA.

Host:

Yes.

Host:

I love doing that.

Host:

I love playing FIFA.

Sia Stone:

Play FIFA.

Sia Stone:

It really like, because it's you now taking yourself out of that situation.

Host:

Yeah, yeah.

Sia Stone:

You need to find the things that de stress you.

Host:

Yeah, yeah.

Host:

Have you trained in bodybuilders?

Sia Stone:

No.

Host:

No.

Host:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

And I would love to.

Sia Stone:

I want the bodybuilders in the yoga studio so bad.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, so bad.

Host:

Just to qualify that she wants to train the bodybuilders and the yoga studios.

Host:

Okay, that's, that's what, that's what she meant, right?

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

All right.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, yeah.

Sia Stone:

I want to, I want to flow with them.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

Get their energy centers.

Sia Stone:

I feel like they'll pose different.

Sia Stone:

Like, the muscles will pop different.

Host:

Yes.

Sia Stone:

Like, do you understand?

Sia Stone:

Like, look, I was gonna get into bodybuilding.

Sia Stone:

I was.

Sia Stone:

I wanted to do the bikini.

Sia Stone:

The bikini modeling.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

And then I saw the.

Sia Stone:

The eating habits that you need to get into.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

And I was like, okay.

Sia Stone:

I just had to hear dehydration.

Sia Stone:

And I was like, I'm out.

Host:

I hear you have to dehydrate yourself.

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Host:

And I was like, is that to make your muscles pop?

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

So that then there's, like, no liquid.

Sia Stone:

It's just skin and muscle and tendons and ligaments.

Host:

Everybody wants to be a bodybuilder.

Host:

Right.

Sia Stone:

I can't even, because it's not me, you know, but, yeah, I want.

Sia Stone:

I heard the dehydration, and I was like, nah, I'm good.

Sia Stone:

It's fine.

Host:

It's funny.

Host:

My dietitian, she had, we used to date someone who was a bodybuilder, so.

Host:

Right.

Host:

He had too much weight.

Host:

Not weight, water in his system.

Host:

Right.

Host:

He wasn't a dehydrated now.

Host:

It's a wild concept.

Host:

So before he was supposed to go on stage, like, getting the story correct, he started spitting, bro.

Host:

He starts spitting.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

You see now?

Sia Stone:

And he needs to win because he's put in so much work.

Sia Stone:

Like, I don't blame him.

Sia Stone:

Like, spit it away.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

Wow.

Host:

Like, do you want to do that to yourself?

Host:

Right.

Host:

No, not only you don't.

Host:

I can see her eyes, her third eyes open to that.

Sia Stone:

She doesn't definitely do not want to do that.

Host:

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Sia Stone:

Would you go into bodybuilding?

Host:

I don't think I have the discipline, from an eating perspective to do that.

Sia Stone:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

Because it's insane, right?

Host:

Madness.

Host:

You have to eat, like, eight meals a day.

Host:

You have to change twice.

Sia Stone:

You can't be walking unnecessary, necessarily.

Host:

No, no, no.

Host:

It's.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

Like, like pro body.

Host:

I love.

Host:

I love watching those guys.

Host:

I like the discipline, because when you go to the gym, I love lifting weights.

Host:

I just love it.

Host:

Right?

Host:

So that's why I do the bodybuilding exercise.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

I just know the discipline from a diet perspective.

Host:

Right.

Host:

But the guys like Ronnie Coleman, and you've heard of Roddy Coleman.

Host:

Big round.

Host:

Yeah, buddy.

Host:

Roddy Coleman, Jay Cutler, all these bodybuilders, all of them guys, bigger because she's a house.

Host:

He's massive.

Host:

Like, I want to actually see these guys in real life.

Host:

I'm like, I actually want to.

Host:

Like, I actually want to see the biggest bodybuilder in the world and be like, yo, you're massive.

Host:

How do you go on a plane being that big?

Host:

Right.

Host:

So there's natural bodybuilding.

Host:

That's something I could do.

Host:

But.

Host:

But then also, they say, if you are pro bodybuilder, I don't know how true this is, is that you have to be on roids or the juice or the gear if you're a pill, apparently.

Sia Stone:

But there's, there's people who guide you to do it properly.

Host:

You know, granted, granted, people guide you to it properly.

Host:

So the exercise is 100% the, the dieting discipline.

Host:

I actually want to see how far I can, and.

Sia Stone:

You can have it after the comp.

Sia Stone:

If you're going to enter competition, you can have it after.

Host:

Yeah, but, like, you know how nice it is, though.

Sia Stone:

I do.

Host:

I was afraid you just say, no, I don't.

Sia Stone:

I do.

Host:

Aha.

Host:

Uh huh.

Host:

Yeah, you do.

Sia Stone:

I do.

Host:

I get.

Host:

Okay, all right.

Sia Stone:

Like, yes.

Host:

That double quarter powder with cheese.

Host:

Oh, my goodness.

Sia Stone:

Remember when they had the spicy one?

Sia Stone:

Oh, my goodness.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

The only reason I like the double quarter powdered cheese is because you've got something they call pub.

Host:

I got it from pulp fortune.

Host:

Royal cheese.

Host:

I'm like, what's a royal cheese?

Host:

Double quota.

Host:

Fine.

Host:

I'm like, that's my burger from now on.

Host:

Yes, that's my burger from now on.

Host:

So.

Host:

So the day will come.

Host:

Like, I owe myself an explanation, and I owe a lot of people explanation.

Host:

I need to be on the COVID of a fitness magazine.

Sia Stone:

Do it.

Host:

So I need to do that.

Host:

I do.

Host:

That I don't know.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

I don't know how I need to pay to do that.

Host:

First have to look the part, then you have to pay.

Sia Stone:

But also, do you see yourself on the magazine?

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

Definitely.

Sia Stone:

Do you?

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

And can you feel everyone seeing and flipping through that magazine, or.

Host:

I need to do that practice now.

Host:

Yeah, do that practice.

Sia Stone:

Do it.

Sia Stone:

Like, enjoy just feeling and watching people look at you.

Host:

Yes.

Sia Stone:

On the magazine and being like, look at this.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

Look at this guy.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

Do you understand?

Host:

You don't go there.

Host:

You don't understand.

Host:

These are goals, you know?

Host:

Definitely.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

So the back workouts.

Host:

I love back workouts.

Host:

Like.

Host:

Right.

Host:

My back never fails me.

Host:

It doesn't.

Host:

Leg day, guys.

Host:

Your leg day is.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

Because if you don't do leg day, you're not a proper gym, bro.

Sia Stone:

Amen.

Sia Stone:

Young Johnny Bravo.

Host:

Chicken legs.

Host:

Chicken legs.

Host:

No way.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

So.

Host:

All right, so at the point where you can ask me questions that you would like to ask and things that you'd like to know that I can hopefully answer.

Sia Stone:

Okay.

Sia Stone:

When you started doing your podcasts.

Host:

Yes.

Host:

The NJ podcast.

Host:

We're in over 25 countries, over 17,000 subscribers, lots of downloads.

Host:

One of my biggest audiences.

Host:

Hey, you have to monetize that first.

Host:

One of my biggest audiences is in India.

Host:

Oh, the US.

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Host:

And I laughed at this one.

Host:

Nigeria.

Host:

Nigeria.

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Host:

Yes.

Sia Stone:

But that's powerful when you.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

Shout out.

Host:

Shout out.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

Do you see yourself now expanding and then how soon would you like the expansion to happen?

Host:

Good question.

Host:

I definitely see myself expanding.

Host:

So I know you asked me, off the record, how I started, so I love speaking to people.

Host:

Well, you know this.

Host:

And I started with just my laptop, speaking to people on my laptop.

Host:

Right.

Host:

I didn't know podcasting was a thing.

Host:

So after my second book in:

Host:

So I was trying to improve the vision that I have for myself to expand my game, as Doctor DeMartini would say.

Host:

Then I said, let me start a podcast, because I was advised to start one.

Host:

One of my coaches said, have one.

Host:

Just have someone on.

Host:

Just use your phone.

Host:

Just talk.

Host:

Right.

Host:

Then I started:

Host:

Recorded my first guest in February and the second guest in actually in the same month.

Host:

And then the best time of all time happened.

Host:

Covid happened, and I had to figure my life out.

Host:

Right.

Host:

I'm glad because it moved people to remote work, and I love that right now.

Host:

That was.

Host:

That was a gift.

Host:

That was a gift that keeps on giving.

Host:

Then I was like, you know, what?

Host:

I've got the time.

Host:

I've got money because I'm not going out anymore.

Host:

I'm not partying anymore.

Host:

I was too depressed to have a mug order.

Host:

You know, I couldn't go to the gym.

Host:

I wanted to kill myself.

Host:

Couldn't go to the gym.

Host:

There was no.

Host:

I was not allowed to drink alcohol.

Host:

So that that stopped.

Host:

So now I've got all this surplus money.

Host:

I'm not driving places I need to go.

Host:

Then I was like, sure, I've got access, money, let me get the first rounds of equipment.

Host:

And I was like, hey, do you want to be on.

Host:

Hey, do you want to be on the.

Host:

And people love talking, so you would know.

Host:

So then that's how it started growing.

Host:

That's how it started growing.

Host:

And then I think what made me be like, okay, I'm really going to go after office 100% is one.

Host:

People were dying left, right, and said, I'm like, I can't be.

Host:

I won't be alive forever, so I might as well do it.

Host:

And then I watched one of my, one of the people that were big in the podcasting game.

Host:

We've got this man.

Host:

I don't know if you know him, Joe Rogan.

Host:

Like, he signed a hundred million dollar deal with Spotify.

Host:

I was like, this is.

Host:

This thing is possible even if I just get, like, a 10% Spotify, just.

Host:

But other than that, when I actually went into it, I started becoming so fulfilling to actually do it.

Host:

Then I did, like, 20 guests in the space of, like, two, three months with the week that we launched, which was quite.

Host:

This was.

Host:

This was wild.

Host:

Listen to the story.

Host:

I did, like, an ad campaign, ran the ads, and then for about a week.

Host:

It's not a long, long time, but I'll take it for about a week.

Host:

This podcast was number eight in the country in self improvement category.

Host:

I'm like, oh, wow.

Host:

Oh, wow.

Host:

Look at me, look at me, look at me.

Host:

But one of the things that I found was quite interesting is that all those above in the self improvement category, that's the only category I wanted to do, is all of them were american based podcasts that were being listened to in South Africa.

Host:

So I'm like, that's dope.

Host:

Yes.

Host:

I'm like, that's dope, right?

Host:

But then that means we need most african creators in a certain niche.

Host:

So, yeah, so that's where it started.

Host:

And then started doing international guests.

Host:

I've.

Host:

She's like, people, like, started doing motivational speakers.

Host:

I did.

Host:

People speak in church.

Host:

One guy, one lady who was a victim of.

Host:

Who's basically.

Host:

Basically a victim of a predator in church.

Host:

So I'm like, yeah, I need to get that.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

And when you go to church, you're supposed to feel safe, right?

Host:

Not her, not her, not her.

Host:

So she was taking advantage of bypass.

Host:

Her name is Sandy Kirkham.

Host:

It's on.

Host:

And then one of the most interesting guests I did was the person who started Comedy central, Mister Art Bell.

Host:

He told me about all these comedians.

Host:

He told me about Eddie Murphy, told me about Dave Chappelle.

Host:

He told me about Kevin Hart, how he started the entire thing.

Host:

It was like, it was actually wild.

Host:

Mister Ott Bell, that was.

Host:

That was quite great.

Host:

And then I took a break for a bit, and then I started doing like, something daily.

Host:

Like, I'll do motivational Mondays, transformational Tuesdays, wisdom words Wednesdays.

Host:

I did thriving project management Thursdays because that's a field compassionate about five point Fridays, significant lessons Saturdays, and spiritual development Sunday.

Host:

Yeah, yeah.

Host:

So then that was, that was.

Host:

That was really tough because now you need to plan all this content.

Host:

You need.

Host:

You shoot it, do the audio.

Host:

That was really tough as well.

Host:

Like, I almost burnt out a bit.

Host:

So I just took a break on my game.

Host:

Just do one every other month.

Host:

But then now I have a podcast network where I've got this.

Host:

This show.

Host:

I've got one that, sisters house music.

Host:

I've got one that talks about spiritual development and the bible.

Host:

Then there's one, one of my friends here, he finished his fifth episode last week.

Host:

He's doing a 6th one this week.

Host:

And people quit after the fourth one.

Host:

Right?

Host:

The drop off was like 90% off the fourth one.

Host:

So if you.

Host:

So, like, so basically, if you get you to the fifth one, you're, you're.

Host:

You're an elite company.

Host:

All because consistency is important.

Host:

Like, it's like, yo, that's not a one stop shop.

Host:

And then, you know, I mean, um, so the next thing is that I've got a whole backlog of guests I need to get on.

Host:

There's a lot of them.

Host:

And then from an international perspective, there's a lot of people internationally to speak to as well.

Host:

My dream guest, if I can get this one guy on, I don't know what to do with myself.

Host:

Hey.

Host:

See, I just wouldn't know.

Host:

Hey, I wouldn't know.

Host:

I wouldn't know.

Host:

I wouldn't know if I could get Trevor Noah on, I'd die.

Host:

Like, I die.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

Elon Musk would be great.

Host:

Jeff Bezos is nice.

Host:

Kevin Hart would be amazing.

Host:

Hey, Dave Chappelle.

Host:

Hey.

Host:

Hey, Dave.

Host:

Hey, Dave.

Host:

Hey, Dave Chappelle would be great.

Host:

He'd be nice, but, like Trevor, I just wouldn't know how I'd handle myself, and.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

And I think I should just shoot and get him on, but, you know.

Sia Stone:

Look, I will say, just from the bobs.

Host:

The bobs.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

And what I see around me.

Host:

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, me.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, yeah, that's happening.

Sia Stone:

It's happening.

Sia Stone:

It's happening.

Host:

Oh, my God.

Host:

I.

Host:

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Sia Stone:

No, for real.

Sia Stone:

No, I think.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, yeah.

Host:

So that's.

Sia Stone:

Keep putting it out there in the universe.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

So the expansion is.

Host:

I mean, so the mission statement from a relational wellness perspective for me was, you have this holistic wellness that I believe in.

Host:

I was a wellness leader.

Host:

Rhodes.

Host:

You know, those.

Host:

Those.

Host:

Those oaks.

Host:

Yeah, I was one of those oaks.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

Shut up, shut up, shut up, shut up.

Host:

So there's the financial.

Host:

There's a spiritual, there's a physical.

Host:

Then there's the intellectual.

Host:

Then there's relational, then there's emotional.

Host:

So, from a relational perspective, my mission statement is to have the best and brightest minds on my speed dial.

Host:

That means you're speaking to them consistently.

Host:

And if you're speaking to those people consistently, you become the people you speak to.

Host:

So that's.

Host:

That's what it is.

Host:

So all the greatest people in the world that are alive and still to be born, I just want to sit down and just chat with them.

Host:

That's.

Host:

That's.

Host:

That's the mission statement behind the podcast.

Host:

That's why you see me doing this consistently as I am.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, yeah.

Sia Stone:

You're definitely becoming a better person.

Host:

Yes, yes, definitely.

Host:

I'm a much better person.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

There's some crazy people out there, man.

Host:

A lot of crazy people out there.

Sia Stone:

And we appreciate them.

Sia Stone:

They show us that we're not so crazy.

Host:

No, the shout out seems there, especially the closest.

Host:

They are.

Host:

You see your face.

Host:

If you can see your own face, you're proving my point.

Host:

You're making my point.

Sia Stone:

Imagine being told that you're crazy, and then I must be like, you're making my point.

Host:

Own it.

Host:

Own it.

Sia Stone:

No.

Host:

Stereotype.

Host:

It's a stereotype.

Host:

It's literally a stereotype.

Host:

It's, hey, khasa woman, apparently.

Host:

Hey, yay.

Sia Stone:

I'm a mixture.

Host:

You're a mixture.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

What's the mixture?

Sia Stone:

Zulu and xhosa.

Sia Stone:

My mom is closer.

Sia Stone:

My dad is Zulu.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

No, no, sharp.

Sia Stone:

You're not closer than I, so I'm closer, but I.

Sia Stone:

My bro.

Host:

Hey, hey, hey.

Sia Stone:

I'm skiffing you from.

Host:

Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey.

Host:

It's not me who say, hey, listen, it's not me who said it's there.

Host:

It's the people.

Host:

It's the people.

Host:

It's the people out there who are saying the cousin are crazy.

Host:

No, there are a lot of stereotypes out there.

Host:

Zulu, Zulu people are violent but they're like.

Sia Stone:

Like, they're violent but soft.

Host:

Um, who's that doll that was also a doll?

Host:

Wasn't chucky a doll?

Host:

Wasn't chucky a doll?

Host:

Okay, I'm trolling.

Host:

I'm trolling.

Host:

I'm trying.

Host:

There are no stereotypes of that like Zulu man or violent.

Host:

I mean, that's definitely can't be true.

Host:

Zulu women are subservient.

Host:

Well, no, tosamen Elias.

Sia Stone:

Apparently, apparently a.

Sia Stone:

I think maybe you should stop.

Host:

I'm just, I'm a a.

Host:

These are stereotypes that I don't believe.

Host:

That I don't believe, by the way.

Sia Stone:

Really?

Host:

No, I don't believe them.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

Come on.

Sia Stone:

Okay.

Host:

No, I don't believe that.

Host:

You're definitely not crazy.

Host:

You are, um, you're enlightened.

Host:

You're, you, you are enlightened 100%.

Host:

100%.

Host:

And I'm sweaty, also known as lies as well.

Sia Stone:

So really?

Host:

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Sia Stone:

So I'll throw chakra.

Host:

No, those are just stereotypes that I, that I don't believe.

Host:

But it's just what I just what I've heard.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

If you speak, we've spoken to as many people as I have on the podcast.

Host:

They always come out.

Host:

They always, I guess people have a lot of biases out there and I.

Sia Stone:

Can'T, I can't fight you with that one.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

Because there's not, hey, hey, it's not me saying hey, it's the people's out there.

Host:

All right, give me another question.

Sia Stone:

Another question.

Sia Stone:

Okay, so we know about this expansion.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

What made, like, when was it the day that clicked to you that actually, I just, I want to be a better person.

Sia Stone:

Like what happened?

Host:

A better person.

Host:

I think it was:

Host:

I was like:

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

I think it got to the point where I was watching people around me, my peers in high school around me.

Host:

And I'm like beginning all these, these better marks.

Host:

Yeah, they're doing all these amazing things.

Host:

They're flying to London for holidays.

Host:

You know, I didn't even go to the view.

Host:

I go to woods with my grandmother.

Host:

And I appreciate that.

Host:

I appreciate that.

Host:

And then I just watched the world around me and people achieving great things and just making the most of themselves from what I saw.

Host:

And I'm like, why can't I be like that?

Host:

And why are certain people this way and some people are not?

Sia Stone:

Were you doing, like, the bare minimum?

Host:

No, I wasn't.

Sia Stone:

Were you really trying?

Host:

I think at that time, I believed I was trying.

Sia Stone:

Okay?

Host:

But then, retrospectively knowing what that moment did for me, I started trying harder.

Host:

But then I.

Host:

As a result, I was prone to a lot of anxiety because I'm always trying to achieve all these things.

Host:

And then I was like, you know what?

Host:

And also I was like, I think I want to be a genius.

Host:

You know, I want to be a genius.

Host:

I want to be known as a genius.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

So then that clicked for me, and then I was like, I got to start finding the answers.

Host:

And as I go, like, Wikipedia, how to be organized.

Host:

And I actually asked my dad to borrow his credit card so I can.

Host:

By some guy.

Host:

It's called, like, the guy to genius intelligence.

Host:

I still have that to this day.

Host:

And then I was like, I need to find the answers and whatnot.

Host:

But little did I know that.

Host:

I think that moment hit me was, like, 17.

Host:

But then there was a moment before that.

Host:

I was, like,:

Host:

And I wrote down five things that I want to achieve in this five years.

Host:

So one, I want a white blazer.

Host:

What that means.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

What that means is that you.

Host:

It's like, the highest form of achievement in a certain discipline.

Host:

It could be cultural activities, your public speaking, debating and drama.

Host:

Then there's academics where you have to be, like, super smart.

Host:

I didn't get that, of course.

Host:

No, no, no, no.

Host:

Those are for the.

Host:

Those a.

Sia Stone:

You know, hey, we had Brenner, we had label, we had Shannon, we had Brendan Wall carrier.

Sia Stone:

We had all offense.

Sia Stone:

It was inspiring to have them up there.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

I was like, yeah, like, you know, do it for me.

Host:

Like, I know what you're doing, but, like, do it for me.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

And then there's one.

Host:

There was one for community service, there was one for sports and all that stuff.

Host:

So I wrote down I wanted to have white blazer, because at that school, St.

Host:

Dunstan's, no one.

Host:

No black person had ever done it in 92 years.

Host:

No black person.

Host:

No black person.

Host:

Mandela left prison.

Host:

No, listen.

Host:

Mandela was born, went to prison, left, came out, became the president of this country, retired, and was four years away from.

Host:

And no one had no black person.

Host:

They were indian guy.

Host:

Do get one for the academic.

Host:

Okay, so I'm like, yes.

Host:

At least someone who's not.

Host:

Who's not of the light of persuasion.

Host:

You say, hey.

Host:

She said, not me.

Host:

Hey, hey, hey.

Host:

Not someone of the.

Host:

Not someone who's fair skinned.

Host:

Yes, yes, yes.

Host:

Fair skinned.

Sia Stone:

Is this really.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, you've got to be pele.

Host:

So the Caucasians, we were getting them right?

Host:

And then the Asians were getting them like, yeah, yeah.

Host:

They were just genuinely smarter.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

That's some of the things that got caught me.

Host:

And I said, I want to get top of my class on something.

Host:

I'm like, can I get to my class on something?

Host:

So I think those were some of the three things I wrote down.

Host:

There were five.

Host:

I want to fly high into university, right?

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Host:

So that was me, grade seven going into grade eight.

Host:

So then it clicked again for me.

Host:

And when I say it, I'm like, okay, I need to put on more effort.

Host:

So then I worked, I worked, I worked.

Host:

And then:

Host:

And then now you're like, is this all there is?

Host:

Right?

Host:

So then in that year, so I was a.

Host:

They could have called them prefix.

Host:

Now I was head of house.

Host:

I was the only black person there.

Host:

Like, guys, would you do better?

Host:

Let's.

Host:

And then I was also head of drama.

Host:

And all this because I loved it.

Host:

There's nothing drama debilitated into public speaking conversations.

Host:

I was that guy.

Host:

That guy.

Sia Stone:

Drama is amazing.

Host:

Yeah, it's amazing.

Host:

No, no.

Host:

The actual discipline, the actual subject, but not the state of being.

Sia Stone:

No, no.

Host:

Yeah, not the state of being.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, no, I hear you.

Host:

No, not that drama that you get if you do.

Host:

We date on my psychopath.

Host:

Oh, no, of course.

Host:

Oh, God.

Host:

No, that's not.

Host:

Oh, geez.

Host:

Oh, wow.

Host:

It's a story for another day.

Host:

But wow.

Host:

Anyway, so, so what happened in.

Host:

So that year,:

Host:

So you hear me crying, laughing.

Host:

So what happened:

Host:

I think it was March.

Host:

I, like, I did everything that I could.

Host:

There was one public speaking contest I placed second in, but the year I was joined first when that happened, ah.

Host:

Like, I was so deflated, I'd given up.

Host:

I'm like, ah, you know, Jesus.

Host:

Okay, I guess it's not gonna happen.

Host:

And then I think was like the 1 March, 1st, 2nd, 3 March, sitting in assembly.

Host:

And then misses Wallacer.

Host:

Yes, yes, misses Wallace.

Host:

You that english teacher?

Host:

Everyone's afraid of him.

Host:

This is what I so gets.

Host:

Up.

Host:

And then she's like, reading awards.

Host:

And then she's like.

Host:

Then she.

Host:

There's one guy, Brendan Ward.

Host:

He was my good friend of mine, right?

Host:

Um, so he had gotten white blazer in academics, community service and cultural.

Host:

Oh, my good.

Host:

Like, this guy.

Sia Stone:

Community service?

Host:

Yeah, yeah, yeah, bro.

Host:

Just like, so what?

Host:

I.

Host:

So then I'm just chilling there.

Sia Stone:

I'm like.

Host:

And then it's like, right, so now we're going to read out the citation for honors.

Host:

For cultural honors.

Host:

And then I'm like, then she used to read my name out.

Host:

I was like, oh, shit.

Host:

She read out the entire citation.

Host:

I'm just chilling there, like, I don't know if you can fucking explain this, but I felt like the heavens opened up.

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Host:

And I just.

Host:

You know, when you've got that sense of peace, you're like, yes.

Sia Stone:

But you're also, like, proud of yourself, but not like, yeah, ying lo.

Host:

It's like, I was like, actually read out everything I'd done.

Host:

So from grade eight, I've been my steadfast.

Host:

The public speaking, the drama and everything, all of that.

Host:

And I was like, ah.

Host:

And then I got up and she's like, please don't.

Host:

She's like.

Host:

And then she's like.

Host:

She read out the citation for, like, a minute, minute and a half.

Host:

It was the longest minute, minute, half where I just felt like, euphoria.

Host:

You know what I mean?

Sia Stone:

Like, damn, this is me, guys.

Host:

I'm like, yeah, yum.

Host:

No.

Host:

Yeah, yum.

Host:

No.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

So then I got up and I was walking, and she's like, please don't do any of your Michael Jackson stuff.

Host:

No.

Sia Stone:

Oh, wow.

Host:

Just walk, get your certificate and go back.

Host:

So I got that.

Host:

I was like.

Host:

I was ecstatic.

Host:

I got.

Host:

When I got back.

Host:

And then one of my.

Host:

The teachers, Mister Kuroswami, came up and said, hey, he's the first black person to do this.

Sia Stone:

Oh, my God.

Host:

Ever.

Host:

In 92 years.

Host:

Mandela was born, went to prison, left was the president, retired, and no black person ever done that.

Sia Stone:

Who did you spend most of your time with?

Host:

Brendan Ward.

Host:

The guy that got honest for three years.

Host:

I spent most of my time there.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

So I.

Host:

They were like, oh, look at this coconut.

Host:

I'm like, hey, it's fine.

Host:

I've got a goal.

Host:

I've got a goal to reach here.

Sia Stone:

No.

Sia Stone:

Shout out to you.

Sia Stone:

For real?

Host:

Yeah, yeah.

Sia Stone:

Because you.

Sia Stone:

You definitely.

Host:

I picked my spot.

Host:

I picked the person that I wanted to be like, yeah.

Host:

And not in terms of color and not in terms of.

Host:

But in terms of what they were achieving or they were achieving.

Host:

So listen, like, it was.

Host:

Sometimes I was like, you better not go there.

Host:

And then I was like, okay, fine, I'll listen to you.

Host:

It's like, okay, you better study like this or work like this.

Host:

And that's why the influences in your life are very, very, very important.

Host:

That's why listening to podcasts like this or doing podcasts like this is very important.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

Because I wouldn't have a person who's currently a serial killer on the show.

Host:

I just.

Host:

Because I don't want to be a serial killer.

Host:

You know what I mean?

Host:

Maybe someone who was and has now converted and can tell me the story about the redemption.

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Host:

But not current.

Host:

No, no, no.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

Because success exists in many.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

You can be a successful murderer.

Host:

You.

Host:

You could be cuff daddy, right?

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

But you can't.

Host:

You can be cuff daddy.

Host:

You could be Jeffrey.

Host:

Donald.

Host:

Jeffrey who's not Epstein, the guy who's a mirror.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

And Ted Bundy.

Sia Stone:

No, no, it exists.

Host:

It's real.

Host:

The people who are highly, highly successful, and they highly psychotic.

Host:

And you see it all every now.

Host:

You need to pick your level.

Host:

You what?

Host:

You need to be successful.

Host:

I don't think you can be success.

Host:

This is just me.

Host:

I don't think you can be successful in something that fundamentally harms the entire human race.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

For example, if I say I want to be most successful wife beater in the world, imagine.

Host:

Imagine you can.

Host:

You.

Host:

You're successful in what you set your goal, because once you have a goal and you're reaching towards that, I think you are successful.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

But is it going to be to the betterment of the entire world?

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

Is going to be the betterment of the entire society.

Sia Stone:

That's hectic.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

So, yeah, I chose him to.

Host:

To.

Host:

To listen to.

Host:

And then.

Host:

So then, so I got that, I went back and I called my dad, who's now pastor, like, yo, dad, yo, listen, I just got a white blazer, man, that my relationship I had with my dad was one of.

Host:

Every time I achieved something, I call him up, right?

Host:

So I called him like, he was like, hey, Barack Obama.

Host:

Because Obama was.

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Host:

You know what I mean?

Host:

I was like, yeah, he's.

Host:

And then he's like, I am impressed.

Sia Stone:

100%.

Host:

3 seconds silent.

Host:

I am very, very impressed.

Host:

All right, so what are you gonna do now?

Host:

I'm like, I'm gonna go sleep.

Host:

That's what I'm gonna do.

Host:

Because what else am I gonna do with all that excitement?

Host:

No.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

So then that's amazing.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

He took me to.

Host:

I still have the white basil now.

Host:

I still keep.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, why would you not?

Host:

Yeah, I still keep.

Host:

I actually like.

Host:

You see the wall of there?

Host:

I just picked out a spot and put it there.

Host:

So, like, when.

Host:

When things are going really bad, I'm like, yo, concha.

Host:

That happened.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

So is really bad.

Host:

Yeah, yeah.

Host:

And then that same year, this is why setting intentions and goals are very important.

Host:

I remember, I remember I said I wanted to fly high into university.

Host:

So again, for the first 92 year history, black people were not doing a lot right.

Host:

We're doing well because we had hit boys and head girls and, you know.

Host:

But then the principal for the Angus Patterson, he wanted to give out for the first time a leader of the year award for, like, recognizing leadership and excellence.

Host:

Right?

Host:

So again, it was the 1 October, remember, still to this day, I was there.

Host:

My brother was there.

Host:

My dad was there.

Host:

Well, my dad walked in when they were.

Host:

When they were announcing who was the leader of the year.

Host:

Right?

Host:

So I'm just chilling there again, Mister Wallace, you know, the english teacher, everyone's friend gets up and then says, okay, so listen, so we're giving this award to the leader that's just done a lot of good things and it's done very well.

Host:

This was a unanimous decision.

Host:

And then, and then my sister was right next to me.

Host:

Like, who they talking about?

Host:

Me?

Host:

I don't know.

Host:

Me.

Host:

I'm just here to do my duties.

Host:

Ah.

Host:

Then they call me up.

Host:

I'm like, hey.

Host:

I was like, yes, yes, yes.

Host:

I woke up in my white plays up.

Host:

By the way, this is how things come.

Host:

360 in my white plays.

Host:

I woke up and I get.

Host:

It's like this massive trophy.

Host:

I need to have that recreated because they kept it.

Host:

So I want to recreate.

Host:

Yeah, it's massive trophy.

Host:

I'm like, and it's glass, it's crystal.

Host:

So I don't want to break it in.

Host:

People are giving me standing ovation.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, because.

Sia Stone:

Well deserved.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

Yes, yes, yes, yes.

Host:

Again, 92 here.

Host:

History of the school.

Host:

First person gift.

Host:

Happened to be a black person.

Sia Stone:

I love it.

Host:

And all that that came from.

Host:

And I don't want to say to impress you, but it's.

Host:

It's a principle that I've seen work time and time again for a lot of people.

Host:

And again, it has to be something that you believe is going to serve the greater good and it's going to serve a lot of great people.

Host:

So sat down, wrote out that intention and then start surrounding myself with people and then I had awakening moment to say, people are achieving all these things, why can't I do it?

Host:

And that's the same for pretty much everybody else.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

So that was a changing moment.

Host:

So then that's the.

Host:

I think that was the, like, my high school years were very formative in terms of how I think now.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

And then that carried me through on how I operated in university as well, because pretty much almost exactly the similar result.

Host:

Investor grows 100, subordinating twice, dean of students, leadership, toastmasters, presidents, honors degree with distinction, all of that stuff.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

This is how we knew you also like.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

We knew you like this, dimlo.

Host:

Thanks.

Sia Stone:

Thanks.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

And it's.

Host:

And I don't if they believe that I'm that special, maybe I am, but it's because I set out the intention and I surrounded myself with the people who were going to help me.

Sia Stone:

Yes.

Host:

And I really believed in what I was doing, and I still believe in what I'm doing now.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

How do you.

Sia Stone:

How do you handle the haters?

Host:

I'm a hater.

Host:

Yes.

Host:

You love her.

Host:

So the hate.

Host:

Remember how petty I am?

Host:

So.

Sia Stone:

And I was gonna ask, like, I remember you saying that you were petty.

Host:

But, like, I keep a list.

Host:

I keep a list.

Host:

I keep a list not.

Host:

Not to be evil or mean, spiritual or whatnot.

Host:

Because if you become successful in something, you can be complacent.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

I'm sure you know this as well.

Host:

I mean, like, I think when you.

Host:

When you became the owner of misfit.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

I'm sure you're grateful, but then I'm sure for, like, even if it's like a second or 10 seconds, you're like, I can relax now.

Host:

Maybe that feeling was there for a bit.

Sia Stone:

Just for a little bit.

Host:

Just for.

Host:

Yeah, no, I'm sure.

Host:

But I'm saying that you.

Host:

Not that you're doing it, but I'm sure that feeling.

Host:

Yeah, okay, I just arrived.

Host:

I just arrived.

Host:

Now I've arrived.

Host:

But then when you've got a list of haters and people said, you wouldn't do this, you can't do this, who do you think you are?

Host:

Like, I don't know why people ask you, who do you think you are?

Host:

Why do you think you asking that question?

Host:

I don't know.

Host:

Maybe.

Host:

Maybe someone will tell me.

Host:

So the haters, I think it's this way.

Host:

And I've been a hater myself.

Host:

I actually.

Host:

I am a hater right now.

Host:

Manchester United.

Host:

I'm joking.

Host:

Joking.

Host:

Also, people.

Host:

No, no, I'm really so I think when people are hating on you, they're not.

Host:

And I had to reflect on myself, why am I being a hater to this guy and this guy and this guy?

Host:

Why am I being a hater?

Host:

I think the hate is coming from, one, not appreciating how just how much work it takes to get certain things, and two, not understanding the other person's story.

Host:

Because Osiya owning misfit doesn't mean that she's better than me.

Host:

It means that she knows something that I don't.

Host:

And if I can find out what she knows and understand how she did it, then I can do it for myself.

Host:

But not taking away her misfit, I can start my own misfit, and maybe we can collaborate.

Host:

And so, haters, the hating mentality is some people just don't like you.

Host:

Just because they don't like you, it doesn't mean that they hate you.

Host:

Just don't like you.

Host:

Like, you know, look at the guy with the small ears.

Host:

They just don't like.

Host:

They just don't like you.

Host:

And it's okay.

Host:

Some people, they hate not you, but they hate maybe something that you represent, or this is what I found.

Host:

You are highlighting their inadequacies and how inadequate they feel about themselves.

Host:

And then rather than dealing with your inadequacies, dealing with your shortcomings, you want to take that and project it outwards to somebody else because that somehow makes you feel better about yourself.

Host:

So if I can hate song, hate somebody else, or hate on somebody else and pray for their downfall, then that makes me feel a lot better.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

Yeah, yeah, that's.

Host:

So in terms of dealing with the haters, treat them with love and compassion, because I really identify with what it is that's happening.

Host:

And your haters are not people who are far from you.

Host:

There's sometimes they're closer to you because the people who troll you on social media, they don't hate you.

Host:

They're just doing it for views and for vibes they don't know.

Host:

Like, you can't hate some.

Host:

Something you don't know.

Host:

Yeah, like, you know, I can't.

Host:

I actually have no right to hate you because I don't know you that well.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

So, like, you know what I mean?

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

So if you can't.

Host:

So that's how you deal with the haters.

Host:

I see it at work every single day.

Host:

Like you do something.

Host:

Like you actually do your job.

Host:

By the way, let's say you're doing your job.

Host:

You're doing your job very well.

Host:

If you do a job very well, you get recognized for it.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

If you recognize for your job, if people are going to hate it, like, why is it being recognized for the work that they're doing, whether it be a promotion, bonus, increase, more business, whatever the case is, then they start hating you for that.

Host:

What they're saying is that they don't hate you for that.

Host:

They just upset.

Host:

That's not them.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

And they don't want to do the work to get there.

Host:

Whereas people who are appreciative and become inspired, they're like, sia, how did you do it?

Host:

I'd like to learn how you did.

Host:

This is inspiring.

Host:

This is great.

Host:

So with the haters, it's like I had to learn the hard way that you can't do anything about it.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

I can't guess.

Host:

I can't teach someone to act right.

Host:

I can't even get myself to act right.

Host:

It's a thing.

Host:

So that's how you deal with it.

Host:

And then.

Host:

And then I used to be naive because in high school and in varsity in my early working career, I was like, why do these people not like me?

Host:

Why?

Host:

I just wanted to be light.

Host:

I just wanted to be light.

Host:

And then I just got tired.

Host:

I'm tired, bro.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

I'm literally tired.

Host:

And other people need to get to the point where they're tired.

Host:

I don't know.

Host:

Reverend Ike.

Sia Stone:

No.

Host:

He's known as a prosperity gospel minister.

Host:

I think when I listened back to this, I'll remind you to send you the clip.

Host:

I was listening to it this morning in semi preparation for today, and then he's a charismatic preacher.

Host:

He says, it's like you are not going to get anywhere.

Host:

You're not going to reach your goals financially, in business, and in your health until you get to the point where you don't give a damn what anybody else thinks.

Host:

And then you get that.

Host:

So I think when you get to that point, because if you're going to take other people's opinions, if you.

Host:

If you take you as amazing, rich, famous, as unsuccessful as you are.

Host:

No, no, don't be modest.

Host:

We know Sanas.

Host:

So when as rich, successful, beautiful, and as empowered as you are, you wouldn't do what you're doing.

Host:

If you constantly listen to the opinions of other people, you.

Host:

There's nothing.

Host:

What are you gonna.

Host:

What can you achieve?

Sia Stone:

Look, and I've.

Sia Stone:

I have, in moments, listened to those comments, and I took them to heart.

Sia Stone:

And then.

Sia Stone:

And now, not doing it like you're saying.

Sia Stone:

Definitely.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

It switches the game up a bit.

Host:

Now you, now your root chakras are not there anymore.

Sia Stone:

I'm like, ni taehyde.

Host:

Wow.

Host:

You wouldn't be where you are and doing what you're doing, so focused and so zoned into where you want to be.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

If you're constantly listening to the opinions of other people.

Host:

Even if it's mine?

Host:

Yeah, even if it's mine.

Host:

Even if it's sometimes your own opinion.

Host:

Even if it's your dad's opinion.

Host:

I mean, like, the first book that I wrote is called inspired success, which is the basis for the show.

Host:

I get to the point, we're saying the success is a progressive realization of where that deal.

Host:

So you're doing what you've always wanted to do because it's lined with your highest values and then a worthy ideal.

Host:

What I believe a worthy ideal is, is that, again, it mustn't be looking at harming, killing things.

Host:

And I really started thinking about it in varsity, and I was like, asking people just in Jay, like, why are you studying pharmacy or hke or to be a chartered accountant?

Host:

That was.

Host:

hat was the in thing, like in:

Host:

Like, which g are you?

Host:

Ghdezenhe?

Sia Stone:

I'm a g twelve.

Host:

G twelve.

Host:

Oh, like a g twelve.

Host:

Yo, y'all a great crew, the GT.

Host:

The g twelve is a great crew.

Host:

Yeah, you're a great crew.

Host:

So you'll find out, like, I'm doing this because my mom said I must.

Host:

I'm doing this because my dad said I was.

Host:

I wanted to fine art, but then my dad was like, fine art with whose money?

Sia Stone:

You know?

Host:

So.

Host:

And some people were doing something and their parents let them do it.

Host:

And then when they finished, like, you actually don't want to do this thing.

Host:

So now it can be other people's fault or your fault.

Host:

But the most heartbreaking, not heartbreak, it is hard.

Host:

It was a heartbreaking conversation I had with this one gentleman.

Host:

And then she's like, this is actually quite dark, what he said.

Host:

So I'm asking him, like, what are you doing?

Host:

He's a finance, chartered accountancy.

Host:

It's either this conversation happened while in varsity or when I started working, but somewhere around there and then asked him, what are you doing?

Host:

I'm doing charter count.

Host:

No, no, sorry.

Host:

It was post work, right?

Host:

And he said this was after varsity.

Host:

So he said, I don't want to be doing the work that I'm doing.

Host:

I don't like it.

Host:

There's only one time I'm happy only once, and that's when I get my salary.

Host:

That's the only time I'm happy.

Host:

I'm like, wow.

Host:

And then a varsity conversation we had was in a group where this one guy, well, the story was being told of this one guy.

Host:

He said, I can't, this is very dark.

Host:

This is very dark, this is very dark.

Host:

He said, I can't wait for my mother to die so that he can.

Sia Stone:

Stop doing what he's doing.

Host:

I can't wait for my mother to die.

Host:

I'm like, why can't you wait for your mother to die?

Host:

She's controlling me.

Host:

She's telling me what I should do.

Host:

She's even said the type of person I should marry, so I can't wait for my mother to die so I can live my life.

Host:

I was like, wow.

Host:

I went back home and I was like, mom, I love you, because at least you're not that person's mother.

Host:

My goodness, that's so, that's very sore.

Host:

So people like that can be a hater towards you because you have, you're doing what you want to do and they're still stuck in a place that they don't want to be in.

Host:

And then look at what you're doing as a place of freedom and they don't know how to get there and they just end up hating on you.

Host:

Oh, who does she think she is?

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

So they.

Host:

People are dealing with their own demons that have nothing to do with you.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

It's not personal.

Host:

Nothing ever is.

Sia Stone:

It's not personal unless you're a man united fan.

Host:

It then becomes personal to me.

Host:

Abu, I love you, man.

Host:

Tendo.

Host:

Hey, hey.

Host:

Love you, Sean.

Host:

Hey.

Host:

Hey.

Host:

That's it.

Host:

Listen, hey, we're still fat.

Host:

I'm just trolling, guys.

Host:

I'm just trolling.

Sia Stone:

It's tough out here in these ends, guys.

Host:

It's tough Brian stuff.

Sia Stone:

Keep shining red and white.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

It's red gold.

Host:

Yeah.

Host:

My problem is.

Host:

My problem is these people.

Host:

Some of these Manchester United fans go to church.

Host:

They pray to Jesus, but they follow till that's known as the Red Devils.

Host:

Explain that to me.

Host:

Somebody explain that to me.

Host:

Somebody explain that to me.

Host:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

Somebody explain that to you.

Host:

I'm joking.

Host:

This goes on all week.

Host:

It's just, it's just fun banter, just fun dancer.

Host:

So a lot of things that people do to you, they say to you is not personal.

Sia Stone:

It's not personal.

Host:

They don't know you enough to.

Host:

For it to be personal.

Host:

And if they're hating on you winning a World cup or you getting ten misfits and you making 40 million rand a year and you just operating on a global scale.

Host:

The haters are going to come there.

Host:

They're going to be there.

Sia Stone:

If they are not there.

Sia Stone:

Are you even making them?

Host:

Are you even trying?

Host:

Hey, are you even trying?

Host:

Are you even trying?

Sia Stone:

So the goal is to get more haters?

Host:

That is actually.

Host:

That is actually the goal.

Host:

That mustn't be the direct goal.

Sia Stone:

No, not the direct.

Sia Stone:

It's like.

Sia Stone:

It's the antenna.

Sia Stone:

It's a branch.

Host:

It's.

Host:

It's a.

Host:

It's a byproduct of leaf.

Host:

It's a byproduct.

Host:

It's a byproduct.

Host:

Like, this is the World Cup.

Host:

Liana Messi won the World Cup.

Host:

I was so happy.

Host:

And the people who still hate him.

Sia Stone:

Today, like, yeah, like you're a fan.

Host:

No, I'll tell you why.

Host:

I'll explain.

Host:

I'll explain why.

Host:

I'll explain why.

Host:

I'll explain why.

Host:

Because I love greatness.

Host:

I love watching.

Host:

I love as.

Host:

I love people.

Host:

Thank you.

Host:

I love people succeeding.

Host:

I love people.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, that's nice.

Host:

That's why I was, like, so excited for you.

Host:

Told me that you're an owner.

Host:

Right?

Host:

I love people succeeding.

Host:

I love people's stories when they're succeeding.

Host:

So this is me.

Host:

Know I'm like a diehard fan.

Host:

I'm about to die, but this is like a reminder that after everything's player, like Leona Messi went through all the hate.

Host:

Yeah, he retired.

Host:

He had death threats.

Host:

The people don't like him.

Host:

He was able to come back with these national team.

Host:

To come back from losing four finals in a row.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

To winning four finals a row.

Host:

So when he won this and that, it was a reminder to myself that you can keep on going.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, just keep going.

Sia Stone:

Don't die.

Host:

We don't die.

Host:

You just keep on going.

Host:

And if you don't give up at the end of the day, that's so, that's.

Host:

This is just a reminder of that.

Host:

Yeah, yeah.

Host:

Shout out.

Host:

So say we're reaching towards the end.

Host:

I told you.

Host:

Almost clocking 2 hours.

Host:

I told you.

Host:

I told you.

Host:

All of my critics.

Host:

I told you all.

Host:

That was my greatest of all time when I beat sunlisting, I told you today, never again samuel be defeated until about 50 years old.

Host:

Then you might get me Muhammad Ali.

Sia Stone:

Oh, my goodness.

Sia Stone:

I love it.

Host:

I love him.

Host:

Right.

Host:

So any final words that you want to share with the community here?

Sia Stone:

Just.

Sia Stone:

Yeah, I don't know.

Sia Stone:

Keep connecting to yourself.

Sia Stone:

Enjoy your own company.

Sia Stone:

Enjoy being you and, yeah.

Sia Stone:

Serve yourself so that you can serve others.

Host:

100%.

Host:

Serve yourself so you can serve others.

Host:

Where can people reach you?

Sia Stone:

People can reach me on social media, Instagram.

Sia Stone:

I am Sia Stone.

Sia Stone:

I'm also on Facebook under Sia Stone.

Sia Stone:

LinkedIn.

Sia Stone:

Sia Stone?

Sia Stone:

Yeah, we can.

Host:

She's working on a YouTube channel.

Host:

Don't worry, it's coming.

Sia Stone:

Sure.

Host:

Let's do it.

Host:

All right.

Host:

Thank you very much for being on the show.

Host:

This was an amazing conversation.

Host:

Came exactly the right time.

Host:

100 very much.

Host:

And, wow.

Host:

Like, you actually pulled out some experiences from me that I not forgotten, but it's like.

Host:

It's good.

Host:

That's amazing.

Host:

The first one to do something like that, have me go back all that far.

Host:

Good.

Host:

Amazing.

Host:

See, this is.

Host:

This is why you gotta give good people.

Host:

Enjoy good people.

Host:

Stay with good people wrong and proving stereotypes wrong.

Host:

She is amazing.

Sia Stone:

Thank you.

Host:

She is amazing.

Host:

She's not crazy.

Host:

Like, stereotypes that are saying, yeah.

Host:

And she's written and she's famous, but she doesn't want to tell us about.

Host:

I figure, like, my dad.

Sia Stone:

I'll ask you.

Sia Stone:

Okay.

Host:

Like, just.

Sia Stone:

Just, like, a favor will be passed.

Host:

Any favor.

Host:

Just.

Host:

Just an assist.

Host:

Just give me an assist there.

Sia Stone:

I will.

Sia Stone:

Yeah.

Host:

Like, hundred percent.

Host:

Like, I'll take up the funeral cover.

Host:

I saw you guys support black businesses.

Sia Stone:

Please.

Host:

Yes.

Host:

Oh, boy.

Host:

She's from the view.

Host:

All right, guys, thank you very much for making the time to be with us.

Host:

Remember that success is a progressive realization of where the ideal, that means you come after what you've always want to go after because it's aligned with your highest values.

Host:

And there's the only way for you to live a truly fulfilled, inspired, and successful life.

Host:

And we will see you on the next episode.

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The NJ Podcast
The NJ Podcast is a podcast hosted by Njabulo James with the aim of sharing stories, tips and insights about achieving success while having fun. From topics ranging from personal development, to business, entertainment and sports the podcast will have conversations with experts in their fields. The Podcast will also share insights from Njabulo James’ published and upcoming books. Remember, “success is the progressive realisation of a worthy ideal.”